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The Story of Safia – Contradiction #1

… For instance Safia says that she was raped. Yet her behavior is remarkably friendly and open to both men and women. No anger or vengeance desires simmer. No shame or regret for her own actions, either imaginary or real. No doubts about people in general. She did not even express any of these feelings in any creative manner, such as through writing, composing, drawing, painting, making something with her hands to work off the aggression. Nothing.

… On the other hand, you have someone like Phoolan Devi.

The Story of Safia – Part 1

PRELUDE TO SAFIA’S STORY

IN A DREAM ON FEBRUARY 14, 2015 I SEE A MASTER BED IN A ROOM WITH THE DOOR TO IT TO THE RIGHT OF THE BED. IF YOU LIE ON IT, YOU’D BE LEANING ON YOUR RIGHT SIDE IN ORDER TO FACE THIS DOOR. I AM THERE UNSENSED BY THE OCCUPANTS. WITH ME IS A SORT OF A FAUSTIAN GUIDE WHO ASKS ME STAY STILL AND OBSERVE WHATEVER HAPPENS IN THE ROOM. THERE ARE FOUR GIRLS IN THE ROOM, TWO ON THE BED, ONE BEHIND ME AND ONE STANDING TURNED TO FACE THE DOOR, BETWEEN THE BED AND THE DOOR. A MAN LAUGHINGLY STAGGERS IN, IS PULLED ON TO THE BED BY THE GIRLS. THERE IS LAUGHING CONVERSATION AND FLIRTATION BETWEEN THE GIRLS AND THIS MAN – THIS ELICITS INFORMATION THAT I AM ASKED TO WRITE DOWN IN MY SMALL NOTEBOOK BY A MAN NEAR ME. THE WRITING LOOKS AS IF I HAD TO HOLD THE PEN UPRIGHT IN ORDER FOR IT TO WRITE PROPERLY. AN 8 POINT OR HIGHER ROTRING PEN. USEFUL TO RECORD SHORT PHRASES, PASSWORDS, NUMBERS, CODES.

LATER ON ONE GIRL FLIES THE MAN TO ANOTHER BED IN ANOTHER ROOM. SHE DOES SO BY CARRYING HIM BENEATH HER LIKE TWO SPOONS NESTLED INTO EACH OTHER. HE IS FAST ASLEEP. SHE LAYS HIM DOWN GENTLY TAKING CARE NOT TO DISTURB HIM. IT SEEMS LIKE HER PLAN WAS TO LIE ON TOP OF HIM, BUT AS HE BEGINS TO SLEEPILY LAUGH AND TALK SHE LEAVES HIM, SLIPPING OVER THE BED FRAME WITH THE NOTEBOOK SAFE IN HER HANDS. THIS BED HAS SOME SORT OF ROLLED OVER MATTRESS OR LUGGAGE ON ONE HALF OF THE BED. THE MAN TAKES UP THE OTHER HALF. THE INFORMATION RECORDED IN THE NOTEBOOK SEEMED TO PERTAIN TO SOME TECHNICAL PRODUCT OR PROCESS NOT AVAILABLE OR ALLOWED IN THE COUNTRY.

SUPPOSE FOR A MOMENT THAT SAFIA WAS A SPY FOR THE I. S. I., THE PAKISTANI INTELLIGENCE SERVICE. HOW WOULD THE FACTS I’VE RECORDED ABOUT HER BEHAVIOR SO FAR, YET TO BE PUBLISHED, FIT THIS SCENARIO?

ROLE OF WOMEN IN THE CAMPAIGNS OF TIMUR (TAMAR LANE)

THE FOLLOWING ARE EXCERPTS FROM CHAPTER 9 – TIMUR’S ACCOUNT OF HIS INVASION OF INDIA AND SACK OF DELHI FROM THE BOOK TITLED, HISTORY OF INDIA, IN NINE VOLUMES EDITED BY A.V. WILLIAMS JACKSON. THIS CHAPTER IS TAKEN FROM VOLUME 5: SIR H. M. ELLIOT: THE MOHAMMEDAN PERIOD AS DESCRIBED BY ITS OWN HISTORIANS

SOME CONTEXT

page 194

… Timur next proceeds to describe, step by step, the conquests made by his invading host as it fought its way toward Delhi. When he reached the historic field of Panipat, he prepared for the decisive battle which should place the capital city in his hands. His own description follows.

‘For my intended attack on Delhi in this same year 800 A.H. (1398 A.D.), I arranged my forces so that the army extended over a distance of twenty leagues. Being satisfied with my disposition of the troops, I began my march on Delhi. On the twenty-second of Rabi’-al-awwal (Dec. 2) I arrived and encamped at the fort of the village of Aspandi, …

FROM HERE THE ACCOUNT DESCRIBES THE MANY VILLAGES HE RAIDS FOR ITS RICHES, KILLS THE INHABITANTS OR TAKES PRISONERS ON HIS WAY TO DELHI.

page 203

… When I heard these words, I found them to be in accordance with the rules of war, and I immediately directed the commanders to proclaim throughout the camp that every man who had infidel prisoners was to put them to death, and that whoever neglected to do so, should himself be executed and his property given to the informer. When this order became known to the champions of Islam, they drew their swords and put their prisoners to death. One hundred thousand infidels, impious idolaters, were slain on that day. Maulana Nasir-ad-din Omar, a counsellor and man of learning, who had never killed a sparrow in all his life, now, in execution of my order, killed fifteen idolatrous Hindus, who were his captives.

After all the vile idolaters had been despatched, I gave orders that one man out of every ten should be told off to guard the property, cattle, and horses which had been captured in the invasion, while all the other soldiers were to march with me. At the time of midday prayer the signal was given for the march, and I proceeded to the spot selected for crossing the Jumna, and there encamped. The astrologers who accompanied the army consulted their books and almanacs as to the time propitious for battle, and they represented that the aspects of the stars made a short delay advisable. In all matters, small and great, I placed my reliance on the favour and kindness of God, and I knew that victory and conquest, defeat and flight, …

ON THE DAY OF DECEMBER 15
page 204

… are each ordained by Him, so that I gave no credence to the words of the astrologers and star-gazers, but besought the Giver of victory to favour my arms.

I did not wish the war to be of long continuance; so as soon as night was over and morning came, I arose to my devotions. I said the morning prayers in the congregation, and repeated my private prayers, after which I took the Koran, opened it at random, and placed my finger at a venture on a verse in the chapter of the Bee, which I received as a propitious indication, and acted in full reliance on its command and on the favour of God.

On the fifth of Rabi’-al-akhir (Dec. 15) I passed the Jumna by a ford, and pitched my tents on the other side of the river; after which I gave orders to the amirs and other officers to station their men as near my tent as possible; and also directed that the ground around the camp should be parcelled out among them, and that each one should have a deep ditch dug in front of his allotment. All the soldiers, great and small, assembled to dig the ditch, which was constructed around the entire camp in two watches of the day. I then rode out to inspect it, and ordered that the trees in the vicinity should be cut down, and brought within the ditch; that their branches should be formed into a strong abattis, and that in some places planks should be set up.

It had been constantly dinned into the ears of my soldiers that the chief reliance of the armies of Hindustan was on their mighty elephants, which, completely …

THE ROLE OF WOMEN
page 205

… encased in armour, marched into battle in front of their forces; that arrows and swords were of no use against them; that in height and bulk they were like small mountains, while their strength was such that at a given signal they could tear up great trees and knock down strongly built walls; and that in the battlefield they could take up the horse and his rider with their trunks and hurl them into the air. Some of the soldiers, with the timidity natural to man, brought some little of what they had heard to my attention; so when I assigned their respective positions to the princes and amirs of the right and left wing and of the centre, I made special inquiry of the holy and learned men who accompanied my army where they would like to be placed in the day of battle. They had been with me in many campaigns, and had witnessed many a great battle, but the stories about the elephants of India had so affected them that they instantly replied that they would like to be placed with the ladies while the battle was in progress. To allay the apprehensions of this class of men, I gave orders that all the buffalos which had been taken and placed with the baggage should be brought up; I then had their heads and necks fastened to their legs, and put them inside the abattis.

I gave orders for the camp to be carefully guarded all night to prevent a surprise by the enemy, and the night was passed with the caution and care which are necessary in war. …

NOTE THE REACTION OF THE HOLY AND LEARNED MEN UPON LEARNING THAT THEY WILL BE WALKING INTO A FEARFUL AND UNCERTAIN SITUATION, INSPITE OF HAVING GONE THROUGH MANY BATTLE CAMPAIGNS WITH TIMUR: … I made special inquiry of the holy and learned men who accompanied my army where they would like to be placed in the day of battle. They had been with me in many campaigns, and had witnessed many a great battle, but the stories about the elephants of India had so affected them that they instantly replied that they would like to be placed with the ladies while the battle was in progress. …

THERE WERE LADIES, LADIES OF THE COURT, INCLUDING THE QUEEN MOTHER, THE QUEEN, OTHER WIVES, LADIES IN WAITING, SUNDRY SERVANTS AND SLAVES THAT ACCOMPANIED THIS RAIDING CAMPAIGN OF TIMUR (TAMAR LANE) INTO DELHI, THAT ANCIENT CAPITAL OF INDIA.

TO CONTINUE WITH TIMUR’S CAMPAIGN …
page 213

… Rejoicings for the victory followed, and some of the clever men and poets that accompanied me worked the date of the victory into a verse, which they presented to me. Of all these memorial verses, however, I have introduced only this one into my memoirs:

“On Wednesday, the eighth of Rabi’ the second (Dec. 17, 1398), The Emperor Sahib-Kiran took the city of Delhi.”

I rewarded and honourably distinguished the literary men and poets who presented these verses to me.

I sent a party of men into the city to bring out the elephants which Sultan Mahmud had abandoned when he fled. They found 120 enormous elephants and several rhinoceroses, which they brought out to my court. As the elephants passed by me, I was greatly amused to see the tricks which their drivers had taught them. …

page 215

…On the sixteenth of the month (Dec. 26), certain incidents occurred which led to the sack of the city of Delhi and to the slaughter of many of the infidel inhabitants. One was this. A party of fierce Turkish soldiers had assembled at one of the gates of the city to look about them and enjoy themselves, and some of them had laid riotous hands upon the goods of the inhabitants. When I heard of this violence, I sent some amirs, who were present in Delhi, to restrain the Turks, and a party of soldiers accompanied these officers into the city. Another reason was that some of the ladies of my harem expressed a wish to go into the city and see the Palace of a Thousand Columns …

NOTE THAT THE LADIES ACCOMPANYING TIMUR’S CAMPAIGN NOW EXPRESSED A DESIRE TO GO INTO THE CITY. OF COURSE TIMUR GRANTS THEIR WISH ENSURING THAT THE PLACE IS SAFE AND CLEAN FOR THEIR VISIT.

page 216

…which Malik Jauna had built in the fort called Jahanpanah. I granted this request, and I sent a party of soldiers to escort the litters of the ladies. Another reason was that Jalal Islam and other officials had entered Delhi with a party of soldiers to collect the contribution laid upon the city. Another reason was that some thousand troopers with orders for grain, oil, sugar, and flour had gone into the city to collect these supplies. Another reason was that it had come to my knowledge that great numbers of Hindus and infidels had come into the city from all the country round with their wives and children, and goods and valuables, and consequently I had sent some amirs with their regiments into Delhi and directed them to pay no attention to the remonstrances of the inhabitants, but to seize these fugitives and bring them out.

For these various reasons a great number of fierce Turkish troops were in the city. When the soldiers proceeded to apprehend the Hindus and infidels who had fled to Delhi, many of them drew their swords and offered resistance. The flames of strife thus lighted spread through the entire city from Jahan-panah and Siri to Old Delhi, consuming all they reached. The savage Turks fell to killing and plundering, while the Hindus set fire to their houses with their own hands, burned their wives and children in them, and rushed into the fight and were killed. The Hindus and infidels of the city showed much alacrity and boldness in fighting. The amirs who were in charge of the gates prevented any more soldiers from entering Delhi, but the …

TIMUR REITERATES THAT IT WAS A COMBINATION OF THESE MANY REASONS THAT “…A GREAT NUMBER OF FIERCE TURKISH TROOPS WERE IN THE CITY. …”

THE HINDUS RESIST … SLAYINGS CONTINUE …

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…flames of war had risen too high for this precaution to be of any avail in extinguishing them.

All day Thursday and throughout the night, nearly fifteen thousand Turks were engaged in slaying, plundering, and destroying.

When Friday morning dawned, my entire army, no longer under control, went off to the city and thought of nothing but killing, plundering, and making prisoners. The sack was general during the whole day, and continued throughout the following day, Saturday, the …

NOTE BELOW THE SPOILS FROM THE SACKING OF DELHI ACHIEVED SO FAR …

page 218

…seventeenth (Dec. 27), the spoil being so great that each man secured from fifty to a hundred prisoners, men, women, and children, while no soldier took less than twenty. There was likewise an immense booty in rubies, diamonds, garnets, pearls, and other gems; jewels of gold and silver; gold and silver money of the celebrated Alai coinage; vessels of gold and silver; and brocades and silks of great value. Gold and silver ornaments of the Hindu women were obtained in such quantities as to exceed all account. Excepting the quarter of the Sayyids, the scholars, and the other Mussulmans, the whole city was sacked. The pen of fate had written down this destiny for the people of this city, and although I was desirous of sparing them, I could not succeed, for it was the will of God that this calamity should befall the city.

On the following day, Sunday, it was brought to my knowledge that a great number of infidel Hindus had assembled in the Jami’ Masjid of Old Delhi, where they had carried arms and provisions, and had prepared to defend themselves. Some of my people who had gone that way on business were wounded by them, whereupon I immediately ordered Amir Shah Malik and Ali Sultan Tawachi to take a party of men and clear the house of God of infidels and idolaters. They accordingly attacked these infidels and put them to death, after which Old Delhi was plundered.

I ordered that all the artisans and clever mechanics who were masters of their respective crafts should be selected from among the prisoners and set aside, and …

I HAVE HEARD FROM A VARIETY OF MUGHAL AND ISLAMIC APOLOGISTS THAT THEIR ARTISANS ENRICHED THE QUALITY AND SUBTLETY OF INDIAN ART, ARCHITECTURE AND TECHNOLOGY. BUT HERE IS TIMUR ADMITTING THAT HE TOOK THE HINDU ARTISANS AND CLEVER MECHANICS PRISONERS AND DISTRIBUTED THEM AMONG HIS KEY PEOPLE, KEEPING A CHOICE HANDFUL FOR HIMSELF.

page 219

…accordingly some thousands of craftsmen were bidden to await my command All these I distributed among the princes and amirs who were present, or who were officially engaged in other parts of my dominions.

I had determined to build a Jami’ Masjid in Samarkand, the seat of my empire, which should be without a rival in any country; and for this reason I ordered that all builders and stone-masons should be set apart for my own especial service. …

BEYOND THE RELIGIOUS ISSUES, NOTE THE FORTIFICATIONS PROTECTING THE CITIES, DESCRIBED BELOW.

page 220

… By the will of God, and by no wish or direction of mine, all the three cities of Delhi, Siri, Jahan-panah, and Old Delhi, had been plundered. The official prayer of my sovereignty, which is an assurance of safety and protection, had been read in the city, and it was, therefore, my earnest wish that no evil might happen to the people of the place. It was ordained by God, however, that the city should be ruined, and he accordingly inspired the infidel inhabitants with a spirit of resistance, so that they brought on themselves that fate which was inevitable.

When my mind was no longer occupied with the destruction of the people of Delhi, I took a ride around the cities. Siri is a round city, with lofty buildings surrounded by strong fortifications built of stone and brick. Old Delhi has a similar strong fort, but it is larger than that of Sin, and from the fort of Sin to that of Old Delhi, which is a considerable distance, there runs a strong wall, built of stone and cement. The district called Jahan-panah is situated in the midst of the inhabited city. The fortifications of the three cities have thirty gates. Jahan-panah has thirteen gates, seven on the south side bearing toward the east, and six on the north side bearing toward the west. Siri has seven gates, four toward the outside and three on the inside toward Jahan-panah. The fortifications of Old Delhi have ten gates, some opening to the exterior and some toward the interior of the city. …

LET’S CONTINUE TO SEE WHAT TIMUR DID NEXT.

page 221

… After spending fifteen days at Delhi, passing my time in pleasure and enjoyment, and in holding royal courts and giving great feasts, I reflected that I had come to Hindustan to war against infidels, and that my enterprise had been so blessed that wherever I had gone I had been victorious. I had triumphed over my adversaries, I had put to death hundreds of thousands of infidels and idolaters, I had dyed my proselyting sword with the blood of the enemies of the Faith, and now that I had gained this crowning victory, I felt that I ought not to indulge in ease, but rather to exert myself still further in warring against the infidels of Hindustan. Having made these reflections, on the twenty-second of Rabi’-al-akhir, 800 A.H. (Jan. 1, …

page 222

… 1399 A.D.), I again drew my sword to wage a religious war. …

… Timur’s memoirs then proceed to describe his taking of Mirat by storm, his frightful slaughter of the inhabitants, his capture of Hardwar, and his devastation of the territory along the Ganges, until he turned his army on the homeward march to Samarkand, fighting his way at every step until he left India. …

I SUSPECT THAT THE EXPENSES OF MAINTAINING THE PLEASURE AND ENJOYMENT OF HIS ENTOURAGE INCLUDING A HAREM THAT HAD DEVELOPED AN APPETITE FOR INCREASED SERVANTS, SLAVES AND OTHER HUMAN SPOILS OF WAR, PLAYED A MAJOR PART IN HIS DECISION TO CONTINUE ON HIS RAMPAGE. GAINS SO FAR HAD WET THE APPETITE OF NOT ONLY HIS HAREM BUT ALSO THE HAREMS OF HIS COMMANDING STAFF. VERY FEW HISTORICAL ACCOUNTS EVER TALK ABOUT THE ROLE PLAYED BY NON-COMBATANT WOMEN ON THE WINNING SIDE.

THE WAR OF FLOWERS AND FOOD

2000 –

NOVEMBER –
MUCH AGAINST THEIR WISHES MY PARENTS VISIT THE US FOR THE EXPECTED ARRIVAL OF THE YOUNGEST BROTHER’S FIRST CHILD SOMETIME IN DECEMBER. THEY’D RATHER BE IN INDIA FOR THE EXPECTED ARRIVAL OF THEIR SECOND SON’S FIRST BORN. BUT HE INSISTS ON HAVING HIS PARENTS FOR THE OCCASION, REASONING THAT HE WAS THE MORE TRADITIONAL AMONGST ALL OF US. HE HAD CHOSEN THE ARRANGED MARRIAGE ROUTE AND SO FELT THAT HIS PARENTS OUGHT TO BE WITH HIM AND HIS YOUNG BRIDE. BESIDES HE WAS NERVOUS AND WANTED THE SECURITY OF HIS OWN PARENTS AROUND HIM AT SUCH A TIME.

DECEMBER –
AFTER A DIFFICULT PREGNANCY FOR BOTH PARENTS, FIRST TUNGA GRANDCHILD IS BORN TO MY BROTHER WHOSE HEAD IS BASHED BY KIRIT MANEK – HE SUFFERS A SEVERE ATTACK CAUSED BY AN UNSUSPECTED PEANUT ALLERGY. THIS FREEZES HIS MUSCLES SUCH THAT HE IS REDUCED TO CRAWLING ON ALL FOURS TO FEED HIMSELF. HIS WIFE CANNOT HELP HIM BECAUSE OF SEVERE COMPLICATIONS DURING HER FIRST PREGNANCY. THEIR FIRST CHILD IS BIRTHED BY CAESAREAN SECTION. TURNS OUT HER BIRTHING CANAL IS NOT SUITED FOR CHILDBIRTH.

ON THAT PEANUT ALLERGY, WE ALL ATE PEANUTS AND ROASTED GRAMS REGULARLY AS CHILDREN IN THE EVENING. I WONDER IF THE PEANUTS THAT AFFECTED MY BROTHER SO ADVERSELY WAS PROVIDED BY THE LOCAL TEMPLE GOERS – HARE KRISHNA TEMPLE, SWAMINARAYAN TEMPLE, AND OTHERS IN THE IMMEDIATE NEIGHBORHOOD. THE FIRST TWO ON THIS LIST HAVE STRONG NETWORKS OVERSEAS. THE PEANUTS FROM OVERSEAS ARE NOT THE SAME VARIETY AS THOSE WE GREW UP ON IN BOMBAY. I FOUND THAT OUT WHEN I ATE BUTTAH WHILE VISITING ELEPHANTA CAVES, AKA, GHARAPURI ISLAND OFF THE COAST OF MUMBAI. AMERICAN CORN IS HYPER SWEET. INDIAN CORN IS NORMAL. THE SAME IS THE CASE WITH PEANUTS. BOTH FOODS ARE KAPHA-GENIC, THAT IS, ALREADY HAVE KAPHA’S SWEET AND MOIST QUALITIES. SWEETENING IT FURTHER PROBABLY WORSENS MATTERS.

2006 –

MARCH –

MEET URJESHWARI BEARDEN SOMETIME ONCE I HAD BEEN ATTENDING KALACHANDJI’S FOR A WHILE. SHE WORKS AT THE GIFT SHOP – A PERFECT PLACE FOR HER. IS SHE A GUJRATI? NO! SHE IS A TAMILIAN! AN OVERSEAS TAMILIAN FROM SINGAPORE! LIKELY THESE TAMILIANS LEFT INDIA BECAUSE OF INDIA’S INCREASING ARYANIZATION, I BET. YEAH! THAT OLD ARYAN – DRAVIDIAN CONTROVERSY / CONFLICT / RICH SOURCE OF EXTORTIONARY PRINCIPLES! FUNDING FOR THE TAMIL TIGERS! THE INSPIRATION BEHIND SUICIDE BOMBING POST WORLD WAR II!

JULY –

I ALSO START FOLLOWING THE 12 WEEK WORKSHOP RECOMMENDED IN THE JULIA CAMERON BOOK, “THE ARTIST’S WAY”. THIS STARTS A WHOLE CHAIN OF RELIGIOUSLY ORIENTED, BUT IN REALITY FEMININE ORIENTED, REALIGNMENT OF PRIORITIES.

2007 –

FIRST MISCARRIAGE EARLY IN THE YEAR. – LIKELY FROM THE STRESS OF REALIZING HOW MUCH OF A FIX-UP THIS LAKE HIGHLANDS WILL PROVE TO BE; BEGAN THE SEARCH FOR A SUITABLE CONTRACTOR THAT WAS COMPETENT AND ECONOMICAL – QUITE A FEW CLAIMED TO LISTEN BUT PROVED NOT TO, ONE OR TWO UNDERSTOOD THE MAGNITUDE OF THE WORK INVOLVED AND DIDN’T BOTHER TO SUBMIT BIDS. MOST OF THEM EITHER EXPECTED ME TO BE THE GENERAL CONTRACTOR (UPON REALIZING I WAS AN ARCHITECT) OR DIDN’T BOTHER SUBMITTING A BID AND HAVE KNOWLEDGEABLE OVERSIGHT. FOUND ONE AFTER AT LEAST 6 MONTHS OF SEARCH – A MASON AND INTERIOR DECORATOR COUPLE WHO ACCEPTED A G.M. ROLE AFTER LOOKING OVER MY SKETCHES. I DIDN’T DRAW ANY CONSTRUCTION DRAWINGS – THERE WAS NO NEED FOR THEM.

FIXING THE ALUMINUM WIRING TOOK A CHUNK OF OUR FUNDS, PLUS ITS SPECIALIZED NATURE CREATED INTERESTING PROBLEMS WHEN CHANGING OUT ELECTRICAL FIXTURES. IN BETWEEN THE CONTRACTOR’S GEAR GETS STOLEN IN EXCHANGE FOR WHICH CERTAIN LIGHT FIXTURES GETS MYSTERIOUSLY MISPLACED – NOT THE SAFEST PLACE YOU MIGHT SAY! – AND THIS IN THE LIGHT OF THE FOUR FACTORS THAT ATTRACTED MY HUSBAND TO THIS NEIGHBORHOOD.

I DISCUSS MY STRUGGLES REMODELING WITH URJESHWARI.

SHE DISCUSSES HER STRUGGLES GETTING AROUND WITHOUT ACCESS TO A CAR. SHE MENTIONS THAT ON SOME WEEKENDS DAN DRIVES HER TO THE LAKE WHERE SHE CAN MEDITATE QUIETLY. IT IS POSSIBLE THAT SHE COULD HAVE DROPPED FLOWERS I MENTION LATER IN THIS SECTION, INTO THE LAKE FOR IT TO GERMINATE OR NOT AS IT CHOOSES.

SEPTEMBER –

URJESHWARI TELLS ME OF HER PLANS TO VISIT SINGAPORE, VIA BOMBAY AND ONE OTHER COUNTRY WHOSE NAME ESCAPES ME AT THIS TIME. I NEVER CONSIDERED IT THEN, BUT SUCH AN ITINERARY COSTS MONEY. SO MUCH FOR THE BEARDEN POVERTY!!!!

OCTOBER 20, 2007 –
THE FRONT OF MY CAR IS DAMAGED. I CAN’T RECALL HOW. REPAIRS INCLUDE REPLACING BUMPER AND REDOING PAINT JOB. AT THIS TIME WE ARE LIVING AT BRENTCOVE CIRCLE AREA.

WHILE HERE I FIND MY AYURVEDIC SHAMPOO, SPECIFIC TO MY HAIR TYPE, UNUSUALLY DEPLETED.

I TAKE PICTURES OF THE TWO REMAINING OWNERS OF BIKRAM YOGA DOWNTOWN FOR MY NIECE’S ALBUM IN INDIA. ONE OF THEM HOLDS UP THE NEW YORK TIMES WITH THE DATE SO THERE WOULD BE PROOF FOR MY NIECE OF THE PLACE AND THE TIME.

I HEAR COMPLAINTS AMONGST LONG TIME STUDENTS AND THE PARTNERS ABOUT YASSI’S DEMANDING STYLE OF TEACHING. THE REMAINING INSTRUCTORS ARE MORE FOCUSED ON PANDERING TO STUDENTS’ DELUSIONS SUSPENDING THEIR OWN JUDGMENT AS YOGA TEACHERS.

THROUGHOUT THIS PERIOD I CONTINUE TO ATTEND KALACHANDJIS TEMPLE ABOUT ONCE A WEEK. ON EACH VISIT I’D EMPTY MY WALLET AT THE DONATION BOX WITHOUT LOOKING AT THE AMOUNT I’D DONATE. I THINK THE AMOUNT RANGED FROM THE 20s TO THE 100s. IF I AM OFFERED FLOWERS I BRING THEM HOME.

NOW URJESHWARI TELLS ME THAT SHE WOULD BE IN MUMBAI (SHE CALLS IT BOMBAY) AT THE SAME TIME THAT I WOULD BE. SHE GIVES ME HER PHONE NUMBER SO I COULD MEET HER AT THE HARE KRISHNA TEMPLE IN JUHU AND SHE WOULD INTRODUCE ME TO ONE OR TWO PEOPLE SHE KNEW THERE. UPON INQUIRING IF SHE NEEDED DIRECTIONS OR HELP IN GETTING TO THE TEMPLE, SHE REPLIES THAT THE TEMPLE WOULD BE ARRANGING HER ENTIRE STAY THERE, FROM AND BACK TO THE AIRPORT.

DECEMBER –

WE FLY TO BOMBAY. MORE ABOUT THAT TRIP SOME OTHER TIME.

2010 –

MAY –

FOR AN EVENING CLIENT MEETING AT THEIR HOME, I WAS “ACCOSTED” BY NEW PARTIES TO THE ORIGINAL CONTRACT BETWEEN THE BEARDENS AND MYSELF. A TEMPLE ELDER NAMED MATHURANATH, WHO MOONLIGHTED AS A GENERAL CONTRACTOR BROUGHT ALONG A MASON NAMED GOPAL WHOM I HAD MET BEFORE WHILE FACT-FINDING ON THE TEMPLE KITCHEN AND ROOF ISSUES, AND A LABORER NAMED FRANCISCO FROM THE INCREASINGLY HISPANIC NEIGHBORHOOD IN WHICH THE TEMPLE WAS LOCATED. I WAS GIVEN TO UNDERSTAND THAT THEIR ROLE WOULD BE LIMITED TO PROVIDING TEMPORARY ACCOMODATION NEARBY DURING REMODELING, SO I PROVIDED THEM WITH CONCEPT DRAWINGS. MRS. BEARDEN WAS PREGNANT AND IT BECAME NECESSARY TO SEEK ALTERNATE ACCOMODATION DURING THE REMODELING PROCESS. LUCKILY I NEVER GOT TO THE STAGE OF CONSTRUCTION DRAWINGS – THE CLIENTS REMAINED STUBBORNLY ELUSIVE ON COMMITTING TO ANY PARTICULAR PROCESS, ANY PARTICULAR LAYOUT, ANY PARTICULAR STAIRCASE LOCATION (NEW ONE WAS REQUIRED AS THERE WAS NO EXISTING STAIRS – UPSTAIRS WAS ACCESSED BY YOUR AVERAGE HOME IMPROVEMENT STEEL LADDER), SO I NEVER HAD ANY PLANS TO EVEN SHOW A PERMITTING OFFICIAL FOR HIS THOUGHTS ON WHAT PARTS HAD TO HAVE A PERMIT AND WHAT DIDN’T. FROM WORKING INTHE INDUSTRY I KNEW THAT CITY OFFICIALS CAN BE LENIENT IN ENFORCING CERTAIN PROVISIONS IN CASE OF FINANCIAL HARDSHIP IN ECONOMICALLY CHALLENGED NEIGHBORHOODS TO MAINTAIN AND/OR ENHANCE PROPERTY VALUES.

SUBSEQUENT CONVERSATIONS AND MEETINGS REVEALED A MUCH GREATER ROLE FOR THE NEW PARTIES – ESSENTIALLY THEY WERE TO FAST-TRACK REMODELING BY ANY MEANS INCLUDING BYPASSING THE PERMIT PROCESS. THE BEARDENS ASSURED ME THAT THEY AND THE TEMPLE WOULD KEEP MY ROLE SECRET TO PROTECT MY ARCHITECT’S LICENSE. I REFUSED TO INDULGE SUCH NONSENSE, REPLYING THAT I WOULD KNOW OF MY TRANSGRESSION AND MOREOVER WOULD BE ACTING AGAINST MY PROFESSIONAL JUDGMENT.

THE FOLLOWING IS A TRANSCRIPT OF A MEMORANDUM IN MY NOTEBOOK DATED THURSDAY, MAY 20 2010, RECORDED IN THE BLACK FOREST CAFE ATTACHED TO THE HALF PRICE BOOKS CORPORATE HEADQUARTERS. NOTE THAT EXCEPT FOR THE CLIENT COUPLE’S NAMES THE REST ARE VALID ONLY AMONG TEMPLE DEVOTEES. I DO NOT KNOW THEIR REAL AND LEGAL NAMES. FRANCISCO IS PROBABLY REAL, BUT I HAD NEVER SEEN HIM BEFORE.

Meeting Notes:
Dharma decided to go ahead without a permit for three reasons. In his own words they are as follows:
1) Urjesvari’s approaching due date, her increasing stress.
2) Need to capitalize on the availability of the rental unit next door.
3) Availability (Immediate) of Mathuranath, Gopal and Francisco, to start and complete quickly the work under the radar.

I said that in that case I couldn’t help them any further. I expressed my disappointment int their decision.

Dharma asked if I’d (be) available if they got caught and needed my help in obtaining a permit. I agreed.

Dharma wanted me to remain involved through this process because (honestly, he’s got a good deal and didn’t want to let it go) he valued my insight and input. I said that it didn’t make sense. He wanted me to still provide comments on their actions during the non-permit process. I said I couldn’t do that, my license requirements.

They said they wouldn’t tell anyone. I said that I know but that I would know.

I said that I’d have to end my involvement as long as they were involved in permit-less process. When and if I was brought back on the job then we’d talk again about the terms of our relationship.

Dharma said that maybe we could meet in a couple of days after I’d thought over my reactions. I said sure, we could meet.

SCANNED COPY OF THE NOTES I MADE IMMEDIATELY AFTER THE MEETING. THE RETREAT NOTED AT THE VERY TOP REFER TO THE VIPASSANA SIT SCHEDULED FOR AUGUST.

SCANNED COPY OF THE NOTES I MADE IMMEDIATELY AFTER THE MEETING. THE RETREAT NOTED AT THE VERY TOP REFER TO THE VIPASSANA SIT SCHEDULED FOR AUGUST.

IN A WEEK OR SO I RECEIVED LUNCH INVITATION FROM THE BEARDENS AT THE RESTAURANT. UPON MEETING I LEARNED THAT THEY HAD HIRED A CITY EMPLOYEE WHO MOONLIGHTED AS AN ENGINEER, TO TAKE THEIR PLANS THROUGH THE PERMITTING PROCESS. I WISHED THEM WELL. THEN I LEARNED THAT THEY WISHED TO MAINTAIN CONTACT WITH ME VIA SUCH LUNCHES SO I COULD REVIEW THIS NEW CONSULTANT’S WORK FOR ERRORS AND OMISSIONS. I REFUSED. FROM THEN ON I SCRUPULOUSLY MAINTAINED NO CONTACT WITH THE BEARDENS. I REFUSED TO EVEN GO ANYWHERE NEAR THEIR HOME AND THE TEMPLE FOR FEAR OF BEING DRAGGED INTO THEIR SHADY DEALS.

I QUIT WORK ON THE BEARDEN HOME WITH A LIGHT HEART. KEY STRUCTURAL ISSUES NEEDED ENGINEERING RESOLUTION. THERE WAS NO WAY I WAS GOING TO FUDGE THAT ISSUE! IT RECALLED MY EXPERIENCE TRYING TO ENGAGE THE TEMPLE IN UPGRADING THEIR TEMPLE COMPLEX!

JANUARY 18, 2015
IN A DREAM I SAW THAT I WAS RUNNING AROUND THE OUTSKIRTS AND WITHIN THE COMPOUND OF A HARE KRISHNA TEMPLE, ITS LOCATION NOT EASILY RECOGNIZABLE – I HAVEN’T BEEN THERE – BUT LIKE IN ALL DREAMS IT WAS SOMEWHERE IN THE FAR EAST. AS I MADE MY SECOND PASS, I SAW THEY HAD PUT OUT THESE FLOWERS WRAPPED IN WHITE MOIST PAPER IN SMALL GROUPS OF FOUR TO FIVE FLOWERS EACH. I PICKED UP ONE QUICKLY AND FOUND THAT A BUNCH OF SUCH BOUQUETS FELL INTO MY HANDS. I CHECK MY PACE, TURN BACK, PUT MOST OF THEM BACK AND TOOK ONLY ONE BOUQUET WITH ME. I LOOK AT IT – THEY ARE SMALL, ABOUT ONE INCH SIZED, CUP SHAPED FLOWERS, WHITE WITH PURPLE EDGES THAT TURN OUTWARDS (UNLIKE A TULIP WITH ITS STRAIGHT EDGE).

AS MY MIND REGAINS CONSCIOUSNESS I GET THE FEELING THAT I HAVE SEEN THIS FLOWER SOMEWHERE IN DALLAS. THE NEXT FEW DAYS I SEARCH THROUGH MY FILES FOR AN IMAGE. I FINALLY FIND A VARIATION OF THAT FLOWER IN SOME PICTURES I TOOK OF THE EASTERN SHORES OF THE WHITE ROCK LAKE. THE SHORES ARE BEING STABILIZED WITH CONCRETE BLOCKS. IN THE INTERMITTENT SPACES THERE IS AN AQUATIC WATER COVER OF LEAVES AND FLOWERS THAT HAVE THE SAM E SHAPE BUT NOT THE SAME COLOR. THESE FLOWERS ARE ALSO SMALLER. THEY’VE BEEN THERE FOR A FEW YEARS THOUGH. I DON’T KNOW WHAT ADAPTATIONS THEY HAVE UNDERGONE IN THAT TIME.

I RECALL VISITING THE SNAKE GARDEN IN MADRAS. THE POINT THAT REMAINS WITH ME MOST IS THE VARIETIES OF SNAKES POSSIBLE IN THEIR APPEARANCE, COLORING AND HABITAT. ALL WERE FATAL TO HUMAN BEINGS IN SOME WAY. NONE I HAD SEEN BEFORE OR SINCE. A FEW I HAD DIFFICULTY PERCEIVING BECAUSE THEY HAD SUCH PERFECT CAMOUFLAGE I COULDN’T TELL THE DIFFERENCE.

AT FIRST I THOUGHT THESE FLOWERS WOULD BE USED TO BRING IN POISONOUS CREATURES. BUT THAT’S WAY TOO COMPLICATED. A SIMPLER WAY WOULD BE TO MODIFY THE LANDSCAPE THROUGH THE INTRODUCTION OF NEW PLANT SPECIES.

FLOWERS OFFERED IN A TEMPLE WOULD BE AN IDEAL MEDIUM FOR PORTING NEW SPECIES WITH NEW PROPERTIES THAT MAY AFFECT ATTENDEES IN WAYS THEY ARE NOT PREPARED FOR. PEOPLE LIKE TO TEST A FLOWER’S FRAGRANCE – THAT WOULD BE ONE EASY WAY TO INTRODUCE POTENTIALLY TOXIC SUBSTANCE INTO ANOTHER PERSON COVERTLY.

MARCH 4, 2015
I RECALL WHAT I LEARNED DURING CONTINUING EDUCATION CLASSES FOR MY LANDSCAPE ARCHITECT LICENSE AT THE MINNEAPOLIS PARKS AND RECREATION DEPARTMENT LOCATED ALONG THE MISSISSIPPI RIVER. A SOILS CONFERENCE HELD ON JUNE 26, 2012. THE INSTRUCTORS ARE MOSTLY FROM OHIO STATE (CONFIRM BY REFERENCE TO SCANNED NOTES ABOUT SCREAMING SOILS AND GIANT ASIAN EARTHWORMS DECIMATING NORTH AMERICAN SOILS – UNDULATING SOILS IN SUBURBAN BACK YARDS).

MN ASLA CEU 2012 COVER

MN ASLA CEU 2012 COVER

MN ASLA CEU 2012  AGENDA FOR TUESDAY, JULY 26.

MN ASLA CEU 2012
AGENDA FOR TUESDAY, JULY 26.

MY NOTES, PAGE 1  NOTES ON LEFT IN THE TOP HALF ARE FROM THE INTRODUCTORY SESSION.  NOTES ON THE BOTTOM HALF OF THE LEFT SIDE ARE ABOUT OUR DRIVE FROM TEXAS TO MINNESOTA.  NOTES TO THE RIGHT ARE TECHNICAL IN NATURE.

MY NOTES, PAGE 1
NOTES ON LEFT IN THE TOP HALF ARE FROM THE INTRODUCTORY SESSION.
NOTES ON THE BOTTOM HALF OF THE LEFT SIDE ARE ABOUT OUR DRIVE FROM TEXAS TO MINNESOTA.
NOTES TO THE RIGHT ARE TECHNICAL IN NATURE.

PROOF OF ATTENDANCE AND EARNING OF CEUs

PROOF OF ATTENDANCE AND EARNING OF CEUs

THEN I RECALL THAT URJESHWARI BEARDEN OR URJESHWARIDASI DEVI OR WHATEVER OTHER NAME SHE GOES BY THESE DAYS, TELLING ME THAT HER HUSBAND DRIVES HER TO THE WHITE ROCK LAKE WHERE SHE WALKS AND MEDITATES AND THROWS THE FLOWERS FROM THE HOME SHRINE OR THE TEMPLE SHRINE INTO THE WATERS.

KALACHANDJI’S OR KALAGANGES OR SRI SRIRADHAKALACHANDJI’S USES AT LEAST $1000 WORTH OF FLOWERS EVERY DAY. THESE FLOWERS ARE USED TO ADORN THE IDOLS AND THROWN AWAY THE NEXT DAY. WHERE? THROWING IT IN THE TRASH IS NOT KOSHER – AFTER ALL IT WAS THE GOD’S BLESSING – YOU DON’T THROW THAT AWAY IN THE TRASH. NO, IT IS USUALLY THROWN IN THE LAKE OR RIVER OR SOMETHING.

HOW THESE FLOWERS REACT WITH THE WATER SUPPLY, DECAY AND GET ABSORBED INTO THE SOILS AROUND, ALL THIS IS WAY BEYOND MY EXPERTISE. WHERE DO THESE FLOWERS COME FROM? LIKELY THOSE DEVOTEES WEALTHY AND INCENTIVISED ENOUGH TO PROVIDE FUNDS WOULD INSIST ON CERTAIN FLOWERS INSTEAD OF OTHERS. THUS SLOWLY AND SURELY THE LANDSCAPE IS CHANGED.

URJESHWARI TOLD ME THAT THERE ARE SOME VERY WEALTHY BACKERS FOR THE TEMPLE’S ACTIVITIES. BUT THESE WEALTHY BACKERS DO NOT PROVIDE FUNDS TO PROVIDE FRESHLY MADE GHEE EVERYDAY. FOR THAT THEY USE OLIVE OIL. I HAVE USED BOTH IN COOKING – GHEE IS THE MOST NEUTRAL AND LEAST HARMFUL TO MY STOMACH LINING. OLIVE OIL IS BETTER THAN THE ALTERNATIVES AVAILABLE, BUT NOT FOR INDIAN FOOD. GHEE THAT IS OBTAINED FROM MILK PRODUCED BY A COW THAT HAS CHEWED ITS FOOD THROUGH ALL FOUR OF ITS STOMACHS IS THE BEST. IT IS THESE FOUR STOMACHS THAT FILTER OUT ALL THE IMPURITIES IN THE CARRIER OF PURE OIL. VEGETABLE OILS DO NOT GO THROUGH THESE PROCESSES.

BUT NOW THERE IS TECHNOLOGY IS CHEAPLY AVAILABLE THAT BYPASSES THE FIRST THREE STOMACHS AND DUMPS THE FOOD STRAIGHT INTO THE FOURTH. IT IS YOUR AND MINE BEST GUESS AS TO THE ABILITY OF THIS MILK TO NOURISH A HUMAN BEING ON HIS PATH TO ENLIGHTENMENT. THIS TECHNOLOGY WAS AVAILABLE IN THE 80s AND 90s BUT NOW IT HAS BECOME CHEAP. AND USEFUL IN THE ONGOING CULTURE WARS.

URJESHWARI WAS NOT LYING WHEN SHE SAID THAT THE TEMPLE’S BACKERS ARE VERY WEALTHY.

THEY CHOOSE TO INVEST IN FLOWERS, BUT NOT IN THE PUREST GHEE.

THEY CHOOSE TO INVEST IN COSTLY HAND EMBROIDERED SILK COSTUMES FOR THE DEITIES, BUT NOT IN UPGRADING THAT HOTTER THAN HELL KITCHEN WITH NON-EXISTENT EXHAUST SYSTEM.

THEY CHOOSE TO INVEST IN BRINGING FOREIGN DEVOTEES INTO THE COUNTRY ON THE BASIS OF THE FREEDOM OF RELIGION, BUT NOT IN FIXING THAT CONSTANTLY LEAKY ROOF OF THE BANQUET AND KITCHEN HALL, WHERE ONE CHURCH WAS HOUSED. I HAVE BEEN TOLD IT WAS A BAPTIST CHURCH BUT IT IS TOO OLD FOR THAT TO BE TRUE. I SUSPECT IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN AN EARLY PROTESTANT DENOMINATION CHURCH OR A CATHOLIC CHURCH. THE LAYOUT OF ITS BUILDINGS IS AIMED AT SUPPORTING A COMMUNITY CHURCH WITH A HEALTHY BODY OF CLERGYMEN AND MONKS FOCUSED ON LEADING A MEDITATIVE LIFE – A CLOISTER LIKE INNER COURTYARD WITH SMALLER BUILDINGS FLANKING IT, A HUGE YAUPON HOLLY THAT IS THE PRIDE OF THE KALACHANDJI’S RESTAURANT.

THE KALACHANDJI SHRINE IS HOUSED WITHIN WHAT MUST HAVE BEEN A PRIVATE CHAPEL FOR THE CLERGY. NO WONDER THEY HAVE THE KRISHNA IDOL IN BLACK STONE AND THE RADHA IDOL IN WHITE MARBLE. RADHA IS KRISHNA FIRST LOVER WHEN HE IS JUST A BOY. SHE WAS A MARRIED WOMAN, QUITE SOME YEARS OLDER THAN HIM.

I FURTHER REMEMBERED THAT URJESHWARI BEARDEN VISITED BOMBAY AT THE SAME TIME THAT I DID BUT DID NOT CHOOSE TO MEET ME THERE. SHE STAYED AT THE HARE KRISHNA TEMPLE THERE. SHE WAS PICKED UP AND DROPPED OFF AT THE AIRPORT ON HER WAY TO SINGAPORE.

COMBINE THESE ACTIVITIES WITH MY DREAM AND YOU HAVE A VERY UGLY SALTY PICKLE OF A PROBLEM!

NOTES AND REFERENCES:

THERE ARE SOME WEALTHIER CHURCHES IN HIGHLAND PARK, UNIVERSITY PARK AND PRESTONWOOD NEIGHBORHOODS THAT HAVE A CLOISTERED LAYOUT OF BUILDINGS WITHOUT BEING A CATHOLIC CHURCH. IT IS POSSIBLE THAT KALACHANDJI’S IS LOCATED IN WHAT WAS THE PARISH CHURCH FOR THE EARLY WAVE OF WEALTHY DALLAS RESIDENTS WHO MOVED OUT OF EAST DALLAS AS THE CITY BECAME MORE COMMERCIAL AND BEGAN TO ATTRACT UNDESIRABLE POPULATIONS.

FINANCIAL BACKERS & EARLY ADOPTERS OF BIKRAM YOGA RICHARDSON

FINANCIAL BACKERS OF BIKRAM YOGA RICHARDSON = INDIAN AMERICANS FROM THE INDIAN STATE OF ANDHRA PRADESH (PAST AND PRESENT).

EARLY ADOPTERS = INDEPENDENT CLASS OF VOTERS IN THE UNITED STATES.

BAND WAGON JUMPERS = EVANGELICALS OF ALL SHADES.

FINANCIAL BACKERS STILL REMAIN AS DO THE BAND WAGON JUMPERS
WHILE
THE EARLY ADOPTERS QUIT AROUND 2009 OR 2010, I THINK.

2005 –
DECEMBER –

A SECOND DAUGHTER IS BORN TO MY YOUNGEST BROTHER IN EAGAN, MINNESOTA. THIS IS NEAR TO WHERE THAT FAKE BIKRAM YOGA STUDIO AIMED AT OLD AND ELDERLY PEOPLE IS LOCATED. MY SISTER-IN-LAW’S PARENTS VISIT FROM INDIA TO HELP OUT.

2006 –
MARCH / APRIL –
THE THURSDAY OR FRIDAY BEFORE STARTING ON MY NEW JOB, I SUFFER A SEVERE FEAR SPIKE FROM A SERIOUS LACK OF CONFIDENCE IN MY OWN ABILITIES. THE YEARS OF PRACTICING YOGA AND SEEING ITS BENEFITS WERE AS NOTHING, UNABLE TO COMBAT THIS VISCERAL SPIKE. JUST TO SEEK PEACE AND QUIET I GO TO KALACHANDJIS RESTAURANT TO EAT IN THEIR YAUPON HOLLY SHADED INNER COURTYARD STRUNG WITH TINY SPARKLY LIGHTS. THE WARM RECEPTION TO A LOW-HANGING FRUIT LIKE ME, WORKS ITS MAGIC.

I STARTED ATTENDING HARE KRISHNA TEMPLE FREQUENTLY. AT THE END OF EVERY PRAYER SESSION THE PRIEST SENDS OUT THE MULTI-FLAMED LAMP TO BE APPRECIATED FOR ITS WARMTH AMONGST ANY DEVOTEES ALONG WITH OTHER ITEMS SUCH AS FLOWERS ORIGINALLY OFFERED TO THE DEITY.
FLOWERS OFFERED ARE USUALLY MUMS, OR ZINNIAS, OF ONE KIND OR THE OTHER. DIDN’T YOU KNOW THESE FLOWERS ARE TROPICAL IN ORIGIN?

MY HUSBAND AGREES TO ACCOMPANY ME ONE EVENING. AS HE SITS WITH ME WATCHING THE CROWD HE ASKS IF I WANTED HIM TO JOIN THE TEMPLE. I ASK HIM WHY WOULD HE ASK THAT OF ME! HE REPLIES THAT IT WOULD BE HIS WAY OF SHOWING HIS SUPPORT FOR WHAT I WAS DOING. I ASK HIM IF HE FELT ANY SPIRITUAL CONNECTION TO THIS PLACE. HE REPLIES IN THE NEGATIVE. I DISCOURAGE HIM FROM JOINING. I TELL HIM THAT I WAS ONLY EXPLORING THIS PLACE WITH NO GOAL IN MIND. JUST A FACT FINDING MISSION TO SEE IF THIS PLACE HAD THE PROPER UNDERSTANDING AND RESPECT FOR MY ROOTS! IF THIS PLACE WOULD BE A SUITABLE REPLACEMENT LOCALLY FOR MY FAMILY FAR AWAY – A FAMILY THAT RESPECTED MY OPINION AND ACTIVELY SOUGHT IT. I FELT DEEPLY THAT I HAD A LOT TO CONTRIBUTE AND PROFESSIONAL EMPLOYERS COULDN’T TAP IT, MAYBE A AFFILIATED RELIGIOUS ORGANIZATION COULD. I KNEW THAT I WASN’T CONTRIBUTING AS MUCH AS MY HUSBAND WOULD LIKE TO HIS INVESTIGATIONS INTO HIS OWN UNIQUE CONTRIBUTIONS.

MAY / JUNE –

I LEARN FROM MY YOUNGEST BROTHER AND SISTER-IN-LAW THAT THE SECOND DAUGHTER IS ALLERGIC TO HER OWN MOTHER’S MILK. SO MUCH SO THAT SHE TO BE ACTIVELY RESTRAINED FROM SCRATCHING HERSELF – BY COVERING HER TOES AND NAILS WITH GLOVES OR BY WATCHING HER CONSTANTLY. SHE WAS TOO YOUNG FOR ANY SURGICAL HELP. ALLOPATHIC DOCTORS HAD NO CLUE WHAT TO DO. MEANWHILE THIS INFANT, LESS THAN SIX MONTHS OLD, WAS BREAKING OUT IN RASHES EVERYWHERE. AFTER TRYING VARIOUS NON-TRADITIONAL REMEDIES, THEY TRY SOMETHING CALLED NAET. THAT WORKS IN CURBING THE CHILD’S PAIN. IT IS A LONG AND SLOW PROCESS THAT REQUIRED BOTH THE MOTHER AND THE INFANT TO UNDERGO THE LONG SERIES OF TREATMENTS. SINCE MY BROTHER KNEW ABOUT MY OWN HEAT RASH AND ALLERGY PROBLEM HE SUGGESTS THAT I TRY THEM MYSELF. I TAKE THIS UNDER ADVISEMENT.

JUNE –
I START NAET TREATMENTS FOR MY ALLERGIES. OVER A PERIOD OF NOT MORE THAN SIX MONTHS, I AM CURED OF ENVIRONMENTAL ALLERGIES, BUT RETAIN MY FOOD PREFERENCES PER DOSHA. DOSHA IS NOT AN ALLERGY. DOSHA IS A STRONG CRAVING TO BE FOUGHT WITH ALL THREE, THE MIND, THE BODY AND FINALLY THE SPIRIT. THE SPIRIT WILL ONLY AWAKEN IF ALLOWED TO. ALL RELIGIOUS INSTITUTIONS ACTIVELY SEEK TO SUPPRESS THE SPIRIT. NEVER FORGET THAT!

JULY –
I VISIT MY PARENTS IN MINNESOTA WHO WERE VISITING TO HELP OUT MY SISTER-IN-LAW TO COPE WITH HER SECOND DAUGHTER’S BIRTH. HER PARENTS HAD LEFT FOR INDIA BY NOW. OR THEY WERE IN THE SOUTH WITH THEIR SON STUDYING AT UT-ARLINGTON. OR MAYBE THEIR 6-MONTH VISA RAN OUT AND IT WAS TIME FOR THEM TO SETTLE THEIR SON IN GRADUATE SCHOOL BEFORE RETURNING BACK TO INDIA. THE CHILD HAD HEAT RASHES AND ITCHES ALL HER SKIN AND HAD TO WATCHED CONSTANTLY AS SHE WAS NATURALLY WONT TO SCRATCH HERSELF.

THIS TIME THOUGH MY PARENTS WERE NOT THERE DURING THE PREGNANCY OR THE BIRTH OR THE AFTERMATH OF THE SECOND DAUGHTER’S BIRTH. THIS TIME IT WAS MY MINNEAPOLIS SISTER-IN-LAW’S OWN PARENTS, BROUGHT THERE UPON HER REQUEST AND HER BROTHER’S. THE LATTER WAS YEARS YOUNGER THAN HER AND CLUELESS AS FAR AS LIFE IN THE US WAS CONCERNED. MY BROTHER, THAT IS HIS BROTHER-IN-LAW, HAD PROVIDED THE FINANCIAL BACKING AND EARLY SEED MONEY TO ENABLE HIM TO STUDY IN THE UNITED STATES. THAT IS WHAT GOOD HUSBANDS DO FOR THEIR WIVES WHO ARE TRYING HARD TO DO THE RIGHT THING.

2007 –
BIKRAM CHOUDHURY PUBLISHES ‘BIKRAM YOGA – THE GURU BEHIND HOT YOGA SHOWS THE WAY TO RADIANT HEALTH AND PERSONAL FULFILLMENT’.

THROUGHOUT THIS PERIOD I CONTINUE TO ATTEND KALACHANDJIS TEMPLE ABOUT ONCE A WEEK. ON EACH VISIT I’D EMPTY MY WALLET AT THE DONATION BOX WITHOUT LOOKING AT THE AMOUNT I’D DONATE. I THINK THE AMOUNT RANGED FROM THE 20s TO THE 100s. NATURALLY WORD SPREADS QUICKLY ABOUT SUCH GENEROSITY.

IF I AM OFFERED FLOWERS I BRING THEM HOME. I AM NOT.

JANUARY –
REMODELING OF HOME BOUGHT IN LAKE HIGHLANDS BEGINS. IT CONTINUES TILL EARLY NEXT YEAR.

FEBRUARY 8, 2007 –

SARAH FRANCIS DRIVING UNDER HER FATHER’S INSURANCE HITS MY HUSBAND’S CAR IN THE BORDERS PARKING LOT AT PRESTON AND ROYAL. AT THE TIME SHE ADMITS HER FAULT BUT HER FATHER, WILLIAM T. FRANCIS, SR. REPORTS IT OTHERWISE.

MY HUSBAND REPAIRS THE SIGNIFICANT DAMAGE TO HIS COROLLA VIA HIS OWN COVERAGE. I HAVE PHOTOS OF THE DAMAGE VISIBLE UPON REMOVAL OF THE BUMPER GUARD. I RECALL HIM RELATING THAT HE WISHED I WAS WITH HIM AS WITNESS BECAUSE HE DIDN’T THINK THE LATE TEEN DRIVING HER DADDY’S CAR WOULD TELL A STRAIGHT STORY. BELOW IS MY RECOLLECTION OF HIS REPORT TO ME:
ONCE HE IS PULLING INTO THE PARKING LOT OF THE OLD BORDERS BOOKSTORE ON PRESTON AND ROYAL IN DALLAS. HE NATURALLY SLOWS DOWN. THERE IS A VEHICLE COMING TOWARDS HIM WITH HEADLIGHTS ON FAST ON ITS WAY TO JOINING THE STREET. HE THINKS SHE IS GOING TO STOP BUT SHE DOESN’T. SHE SMASHES INTO HIS COROLLA. THEN SHE PANICS, SHE IS DRIVING HER DADDY’S CAR – BEING A LATE TEENAGER SHE IS AFRAID OF LOSING DRIVING PRIVILEGES. THEY EXCHANGE INSURANCE INFORMATION AND MY HUSBAND DOES NOT CALL THE COPS BECAUSE THEY’VE EXCHANGED INFORMATION AND THERE WAS NO ONE INJURED. BUT LATER ON HER FATHER PUTS THE BLAME ON MY HUSBAND AS THE CAUSE OF THE ACCIDENT. THERE IS NO POLICE RECORD. WE HAVE TO FIX THE CAR ON OUR OWN DIME EVEN THOUGH WE WERE NOT AT FAULT.

YA’LL KNOW ABOUT THE FIRST MISCARRIAGE THAT HAPPENED EARLIER IN THE YEAR. THIS REMAINS BETWEEN MY HUSBAND AND I. THERE WAS NO POINT WORRYING MY FAMILY MEMBERS. THEY HAD ENOUGH ON THEIR PLATE.

SPRING –
HEAVY RAINS SMASH DALLAS. SO HEAVY THAT THE FORCE OF FALLING RAIN AND THE HEAVY PRESSURE OF FLOOD WATERS GOUGES A HOLE IN THE ROAD IN OUR STREET, BRENTCOVE CIRCLE. FORTUNATELY NO ONE’S CAR IS LOCATED ON THIS SPOT OR NO CAR IS DRIVING ON THE STREET AT THE TIME.
I REMIND MY HUSBAND ABOUT THE HOME WE BOTH WANTED TO BUY FURTHER DOWN THE HILL WITH A CHANNELED CREEK RUNNING RIGHT BEHIND IT. ITS CONCRETE WALL ABUTTED THE PROPERTY LINE. THERE WAS NOT MUCH OF A RISE TO THE FLOOR LEVEL OF THE HOUSE. WHILE HE WANTED TO GO AHEAD I ASKED FOR A DAY TO THINK IT OVER. AT WORK I DISCUSSED THIS PROBLEM AND MY WORRIES ABOUT FLOODING (I HATE HAVING WATER COME IN TO THE HOUSE, HAVING GROWN UP IN THE MONSOON ZONE OF MUMBAI AND LIVING IN A LOW LYING TENEMENT – NO SECOND STORY PRECIOUS’ES! ESPECIALLY MY ROW TENEMENT AND THE ONE RIGHT ACROSS – THE DEPRESSION THERE WAS DEEP TO ACCOMMODATE THE EMBANKMENT BUILT FOR THE LOCAL COMMUTER TRAINS. WHO WAS THE LANDLORD? A GUJARATI NAMED MANIBHAI.

AUGUST –
MARRIED BROTHER IN INDIA CELEBRATES HIS BIRTHDAY WITH VEDIC RITUALS. YOUNGEST BROTHER VISITED HIM WITH HIS FAMILY. HE SENDS ME VIDEOS OF THE GIRLS DRESSED IN PURPLE SILK OUTFITS MADE BY MY MOTHER WITH FLOWER GARLANDS DOWN THEIR LONG HAIR.

SEPTEMBER –
MY NIECE SENDS MY HUSBAND A BIRTHDAY CARD INVITING HIM TO HER SIXTH BIRTHDAY. SHE PLEADS THAT SHE HAS YET TO SEE HER UNCLE WHOM SHE HAD HEARD SO MUCH ABOUT. SHE IS PERSUASIVE. MY HUSBAND AGREES TO TRAVEL TO INDIA WITH ME. BUT HE WANTS AN INCENTIVE BESIDES SEEING AN UNKNOWN NIECE, CUTE THOUGH SHE MAY BE. I LIST A VARIETY OF FORTIFICATIONS FOR HIM TO SEE NEARBY, THESE WERE BUILT BY THE MARATHAS IN THEIR WAR AGAINST THE MUGHAL EMPIRE. HIS INTEREST IS SUFFICIENTLY AROUSED. AS THINGS TURN OUT WE DON’T GET TO SEE ANY OF THEM. I AM UNABLE TO MAKE ARRANGEMENTS FROM TEXAS AND DECIDE TO SEEK MY FAMILY’S HELP ON THIS MATTER.

THROUGHOUT THIS PERIOD I CONTINUE TO ATTEND KALACHANDJIS TEMPLE ABOUT ONCE A WEEK. ON EACH VISIT I’D EMPTY MY WALLET AT THE DONATION BOX WITHOUT LOOKING AT THE AMOUNT I’D DONATE. I THINK THE AMOUNT RANGED FROM THE 20s TO THE 100s. IF I AM OFFERED FLOWERS I BRING THEM HOME. MOST OFTEN I AM NOT.

DECEMBER –
IN RESPONSE TO A CARD FROM MY NIECE AND HER YOUNGER BROTHER IN BOMBAY INVITING BOTH OF US TO HER SIXTH BIRTHDAY, WE VISIT MUMBAI IN DECEMBER. OF COURSE SHE WRITES ON HIS BEHALF AS HE IS STILL A TODDLER. WE STAY WITH HER FAMILY FOR MOST OF OUR STAY – I WAS WORRIED THAT THE NEW ONE-BEDROOM APARTMENT WE BOUGHT FOR MY PARENTS MAY NOT BE LARGE ENOUGH FOR US, MY PARENTS AND MY BROTHER WHO HAD MOVED TO STAY WITH THEM BY THAT TIME. IN THE END WE STAY WITH MY PARENTS FOR ONE OR TWO NIGHTS. THIS WAS A STRANGE DEPARTURE FROM MY EARLIER (1998 – 1999) PRINCIPLED STAND REGARDING US STAYING WITH MY PARENTS WITHOUT REGARD TO THE SIZE OF THEIR DWELLING.

IT TAKES MY HUSBAND A WHILE TO RECOVER FROM JET LAG. HE IS UNABLE TO ENJOY THE BIRTHDAY PARTY AS HE WOULD HAVE LIKED. ONCE HE CATCHES UP TO THE CORRECT TIME ZONE, MY FAMILY REVEALS THE ITINERARY OF WHAT THEY HAD PLANNED. HE EXPRESSES NO DISAGREEMENT WITH ANY OF THEM. SOME OF THEM EVEN INTRIGUE HIM. THE NEXT DAY, I THINK, WE ATTEND HER PERFORMANCE AT THE SCHOOL’S REPUBLIC DAY CELEBRATIONS. WE ARE NOT ABLE TO SEE HER, BUT WE TWO GET TO BEHAVE LIKE A PARENTS OF A DAUGHTER ATTENDING HER SCHOOL PERFORMANCE. WE FIND IT AMUSING AND ENJOYABLE. WE ARE LEFT ALONE AFTER MY SISTER-IN-LAW DROPS US OFF, MAKING SURE WE KNEW THE WAY BACK. IT WASN’T THAT FAR OF A WALK.

NEXT CAME THE PHOTO SHOOT ON 22 DECEMBER, 2007. MY NIECE HAD BEGUN TO STAMMER. MY BROTHER REMEMBERED THAT I STAMMERED THROUGHOUT MY CHILDHOOD. HOW TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM!

HE RECALLED HIS OWN LACK OF CONFIDENCE AMONG THE XAVIERITES – THE DOWNTOWN GIRLS WHO LAUGHED AT HIM. YET THESE GIRLS DIDN’T HAVE THE INTELLIGENCE, COURAGE AND GRIT OF HIS SISTER. SHE NEVER SHIRKED FROM ANYTHING. SHE DRESSED AS SHE LIKED. HE EVEN RECALLED HER REACTION WHEN HIS OLDER BROTHER ATTEMPTED TO WALK HER TO THE RAILWAY STATION IN ATTEMPTS TO PROTECT HER.

HOW DID THIS BROTHER’S EFFORTS WORK OUT? HIS SISTER GOT EVEN MORE ANGRY! IT MADE HER DEPENDENT, AN APPENDAGE. HOW MUCH CAN HE WATCH OUT FOR? WHAT IS HIS CAPACITY? CAN HE NOT BE BROKEN? CAN HIS WILL NOT BE KILLED? WHAT WAS HIS OWN LIFE LIKE? WHAT IN HIS LIFE WILL ENABLE HIM TO FIGHT?

REMEMBERING ALL THIS, THE NIECE’S FATHER HAD PUSHED HIMSELF HARDER. HE HAD GOTTEN INTO BODY BUILDING. HE HAD BEGUN TO EAT MEAT AT HOME. HE BEGAN TO DEVELOP HIS OWN PERSONAL REGIMEN FOR GROOMING THAT INCLUDED HOME MADE SKIN TREATMENTS TO ADDRESS ACNE, ALL THE WHILE LISTENING TO THE BURGEONING METAL ROCK MUSIC FOR INSPIRATION AGAINST THE CONSERVATIVE VOICES HE HEARD AROUND HIM.

I RECALL WHEN I WORE A MEGADEATH T-SHIRT AT CORNELL WHILE WORKING AT THE UNIVERSITY AT ITS PHOTOCOPYING SHOP, THE SUPERVISOR, TALL, HEAVY-SET, STOOPING AND LAME, NAMED DENNIS, CHASTISING ME FOR WEARING THE T-SHIRT. I WAS SHOCKED. WAS HE SAYING MY BROTHER WHOSE HEAD WAS SMASHED AGAINST THE NEIGHBOR’S VERANDAH WALL BY KIRIT MANEK IN PURSUIT OF RELIGIOUS MERIT OR FAITH BASED POINTS, WAS EVIL FOR LISTENING TO MEGADEATH? WAS HE REALLY THAT EVIL FOR JUST LISTENING TO MUSIC THAT MADE FUN OF JESUS? AH JESUS! THAT UBER BETA MALE OF THEM ALL! MAY YOU ALL PRAISE HIS NAME! CRUCIFYING HIMSELF FOR NOT HIS FAMILY, BUT FOR STRANGERS WHO THREW STONES AT HIM! WHAT A ROLE MODEL TO HOLD UP!

TO CONTINUE WITH MY NIECE AND OUR FIRST NIECE’S MODELING SHOOT. SHE WAS BORED OUT OF HER SKULL. SHE AND THE OTHER CHILDREN KNEW THEIR LINES. BUT THE ADULTS AROUND THEM HAD NO CLUE WHAT THEY WANTED DONE. ONE OR TWO WERE LATE. THE OTHERS KEPT ARGUING AMONG THEMSELVES WHAT WAY TO GO, YADA, YADA, BLAH, BLAH. SHE HAD MY HUSBAND AND I TO ENTERTAIN HER. HER MOTHER HAD HER YOUNG SON TO TAKE CARE OF. WE LOVED HANGING OUT WITH HER AS THEY MADE HER REPEAT HER LINES OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN. SHE NEVER STAMMERED THEN. WHAT WAS THERE TO BE AFRAID OF AMONGST SUCH CLUELESS ADULTS!

THEN AN ANNOUNCEMENT WAS MADE: LUNCH WOULD BE SERVED. ORIGINALLY NO LUNCH WAS TO BE SERVED. BUT THE ONGOING DELAYS DROVE EVERYONE MAD. PARENTS WERE MAKING MOVES TO TAKE THEIR CHILDREN AWAY. THEN THEY REALIZED THAT THE PARENTS NEEDED TO BE FED IF THEY WERE TO BRING THEIR CHILDREN TO A PHOTO SHOOT. GO FIGURE! THE KIDS? THEY RAN ON NUCLEAR FUEL. YA’LL KNOW HOW THEY EAT, DON’T YOU?
THEY WILL NOT EAT FROM THEIR PLATE. BUT THEY WILL TAKE FOOD FROM YOUR PLATE. SOUNDS A BIT LIKE THE EVANGELICALS IN THE US !!!! STEALING FROM LITTLE BROWN PEOPLE!!!!

AFTER EATING THE ADULTS DIRECTING THE PHOTO SHOOT GOT SOME ENERGY TO THINK CLEARLY.

AFTER EATING, THE PARENTS WITH THEIR PRECIOUS BRATS GOT SOME ENERGY TO THINK AND NOT ASK SO MANY QUESTIONS OF THE MODELING PRODUCTION TEAM.

FROM THEN ON THINGS MOVED FAST. WE FOUND THE WHOLE EXPERIENCE AMUSING BECAUSE WE HAD OUR NIECE TO LOOK AFTER. SHE WAS NONPLUSSED BY THE ATTENTION SHE WAS GETTING. SHE WANTED TO LEAVE, BUT HER MOTHER RESTRAINED HER. SHE HAD AGREED TO CHAPERONE HER DAUGHTER TO THIS SHOOT. SHE HAD FAMILY WITH HER TO MIND HER DAUGHTER WHILE SHE KEPT AN EYE ON HER MUCH YOUNGER SON. WALKING AWAY WITHOUT GIVING THIS A TRY WOULD DIMINISH HER ABILITY TO HANDLE HERSELF WITH THOSE VERY SAME WOMEN WHO HAD MADE HER HUSBAND’S LIFE SUCH A MISERY WHEN HE WAS ATTENDING COLLEGE AT ST. XAVIER’S!!!!

THE PHOTO SHOOT OVER, WE WAITED FOR MY BROTHER TO RETURN FROM WORK. HE DID AND THEN WE WENT TO ANOTHER PRODUCTION OFFICE WHERE HE HAD PREVIOUSLY MADE AN APPOINTMENT. WHILE HE CONFERRED WITHIN, WE WAITED WITH THE CHILDREN OUTSIDE. I HAVE A PICTURE OF MY HUSBAND POSING HIS EXHAUSTION THE SAME WAY THAT WE BOTH POSED AS UTTERLY DISAPPOINTED BY GETTING HITCHED AFTER OUR MARRIAGE.

NOT SATISFIED WITH OUR COMFORT AMIDST THEIR IN-FIGHTINGS, SPICY FOOD EATINGS AND OTHER ATTEMPTS AT CONFUSING US ALL, THAT ITTY-BITTY DUMB GANGSTERS FROM OUR PAST AT ST.XAVIER’S COLLEGE TRY OTHER IDEAS. THEY RECRUIT THEIR NEAR AND DISTANT RELATIONS IN THE ‘BURBS AS THEY CALL IT – POOR RELATIONS, GUJRATI, SINDHI, KUTCHI, MARWARI, PARSI, ALL FROM THE BORDERLANDS BETWEEN INDIA AND PAKISTAN INTO THEIR PLAN. IN MY HUSBAND THEY FOUND WHAT THEY THOUGHT WAS THE WEAK LINK.

HE BEGINS TO SUFFER FROM MILD FEVERS IN THE EVENINGS. WE GIVE HIM STANDARD FEVER PILLS, ASPIRIN AND SUCH, BUT THEY DON’T HELP. I OFFER HIM MY AYURVEDIC SUPPLEMENT WHICH ALSO DOES NOT SEEM TO HELP. ONLY SLEEP SEEMS TO WORK. SLEEP AND BEING LEFT ALONE. THAT WORKED.

FOR A WHILE. AS YOU WILL SEE.

FEELING BETTER AND WANTING TO ENJOY WHAT HE COULD OF THIS OPPORTUNITY TO BE AMONGST A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT CULTURE WITH FAMILY THAT LOOKED OUT FOR HIM. HE CONTINUES TO SIGN UP FOR OTHER FAMILY OUTINGS. MY BROTHER CONTINUES TO TAKE TIME OFF FROM WORK TO DRIVE US AROUND IN HIS NEW CAR. WE ARE PLEASED AT HIS SUCCESS. WE START TALKING, HALF SERIOUSLY, ABOUT BUYING A FLAT THERE TO RETIRE WHEN WE GET OLD AND WOULD NATURALLY WANT TO MOVE TO A WARMER CLIMATE.

NOT MEXICO, THE USUAL DESTINATION FOR AMERICANS IN THEIR GOLDEN YEARS! WE DIDN’T KNOW ANYONE THERE. BESIDES THEIR GOVERNMENT WAS SIMILAR TO INDIA’S – MANY PARTIES CONSTANTLY FIGHTING EACH OTHER.

BUT INDIA WOULD DO. BOMBAY WOULD DO. IT WAS COSMOPOLITAN. IT WAS ANCIENT. THERE WAS ANCIENT ROCK CUT EARLY BUDDHIST TEMPLES WITHIN MINUTES FROM MY BROTHER’S HOME. I HAD TAKEN HIM AROUND TO ALL THESE PLACES. MY HUSBAND WAS ACCEPTED AS PART OF US. HE HAD PROVEN THAT HE COULD PRONOUNCE SANSKRIT HYMNS CORRECTLY WITHOUT SOUNDING ANGLICIZED. HE WAS BECOMING COMFORTABLE. THIS WOULD BE A WAY TO SEAL THE DEAL, SO TO SPEAK!!!!

WE ARE CHAUFFERED AROUND TOWN BY MY BROTHER WHO HAD BOUGHT A NEW CAR.

DURING ONE SUCH TRIP, MY HUSBAND EXHAUSTED BY THE DEMANDS MADE BY MY FAMILY UPON HIM, LOOKS TO ME TO CONVEY HIS FEELINGS TO MY FAMILY AS TACTFULLY AS I COULD, BUT I AM UNABLE TO DO SO WITHOUT UPSETTING FAMILY MEMBERS. ITS A PROBLEM ELUCIDATED IN THE BOOK “THE ARAB MIND” ABOUT DIFFERENT COMMUNICATION STYLES, AND THE PROBLEMS THEREIN. THE AUTHOR ATTRIBUTED IT TO ARAB VERSUS NON-ARAB CULTURES.

BUT THIS AUTHOR WAS WRONG. MY HUSBAND AND I ENCOUNTERED THESE PROBLEMS ON THIS TRIP.

1. THE PRODUCTION TEAM COULDN’T COMMUNICATE TO THE PARENTS.
2. THE PARENTS COULDN’T COMMUNICATE TO THEIR CHILDREN.
3. CHILDREN COULDN’T COMMUNICATE EXACTLY WHAT THEY NEEDED TO THEIR PARENTS, BUT KEPT MAKING FACES, THINKING PICTIONARY TACTICS WOULD DO THE TASK.
4. THE TWO OF US NOW COULDN’T COMMUNICATE TO OUR FAMILY.
5. AND OUR FAMILY COULDN’T TELL WHAT WAS GOING ON WITH THEIR GUESTS.

6. I REMEMBERED WHAT HAD HAPPENED THE LAST TIME I COMMUNICATED MY HUSBAND’S EXHAUSTION TO THE PRIESTS WE PAID TO SANCTIFY MY BROTHER’S AND MY MARRIAGE. MY MOTHER COULDN’T STOP CRYING FOR THE REST OF THE DAY. SHE KEPT REPEATING OVER AND OVER THAT SHE HAD FAILED HER DAUGHTER. THERE WAS NO WAY I WAS GOING TO CAUSE HER THAT PAIN AGAIN.

SO MUCH FOR THE UNIQUE ARAB MIND! IT SEEMS TO BE A UNIVERSAL PROBLEM.

INCIDENTALLY ONE OF THESE TRIPS WAS TO THE HARE KRISHNA TEMPLE AT JUHU, BOMBAY. OUT OF RESPECT I DIDN’T TAKE ANY PICTURES.

YET I HAVE SEVERAL PICTURES OF THE KALACHANDJI’S SHRINE. I WAS ACTIVELY ENCOURAGED TO DO SO. THEY WOULD EVEN MAKE ROOM TO THROUGH CROWDS ON FESTIVE OCCASIONS FOR ME TO DO SO.

WE ALSO VISITED OTHER TEMPLES WITHIN EASY REACH FROM MY PARENTS’ AND MY BROTHER’S HOMES.

WE CONTINUE TO TAG ALONG CHEERFULLY. MY FAMILY BEGIN TO TAKE OUR LIMITS INTO COGNIZANCE WHILE PLANNING OUTINGS.

MY HUSBAND’S EVENING FEVERS DON’T ABATE. THEN ONE NIGHT HE IS AWAKENED BY PURE STOMACH ACID RISING UP TO HIS THROAT AND ON TO HIS BRAIN, THROUGH THE SINUSES AND OTHER POROUS TISSUES AND ORGANS. I GIVE HIM MY AYURVEDIC REMEDIES I HAD TAKEN FOR MYSELF. IT DOESN’T WORK, THOUGH HE IS TOO POLITE TO SAY SO. HE RECOVERS THE NEXT DAY BY STAYING IN ALL DAY, RESTING. MY SISTER-IN-LAW HAD COOKED HIS FOOD SEPARATELY, BUT THIS TIME HE SOUGHT SOMETIME WITH MEAT IN IT, SOMETHING MORE SUITED TO HIS WESTERN PALATE. SO MY SISTER-IN-LAW TAKES ME TO A PASTRY SHOP DOWN THE STREET FROM THEIR HOUSE WHERE SHE KNEW THEY MADE MEAT STUFFED PASTRIES. WE BUY WHAT THEY HAD – CHICKEN MEAT AND LAMB MEAT. THERE WAS NO PORK AND NO BEEF – THAT WOULD UPSET BOTH HINDUS AND MUSLIMS – IN ORDER NOT TO UPSET POTENTIAL CUSTOMERS, INDIAN OR WESTERN. NO RELIGION HAS OBJECTIONS TO EATING CHICKENS AND LAMBS.

AH YES! WE HAVE PRACTITIONERS OF ALL FAITHS AND MOST OF THE VARIATIONS WITHIN. THE ONES WE DON’T HAVE ARE THE EVANGELICAL TYPES, BECAUSE IT IS PROHIBITED BY THE CONSTITUTION OF THE COUNTRY. THE COUNTRY IS SECULAR, MEANING THAT IT DOES NOT FAVOR ANY RELIGION. BUT IT ALLOWS ANY RELIGION OR VARIANT THEREIN TO PRACTICE PEACEFULLY WITHIN ITS BORDERS AS LONG AS THEY DO NOT ATTEMPT TO CONVERT SOMEONE FROM ANOTHER FAITH TO THEIR OWN, BY ANY MEANS, PEACEFUL OR WITH VIOLENCE.

THIS INCLUDES THE GOVERNMENT NOT REGULATING MARRIAGES.

MARRIAGES ARE CONDUCTED BY PRIESTS, AND THERE ARE MANY, MANY, MANY OF THEM. EACH VARIATION OF A VARIANT OF A FAITH HAS SOMEONE WHO CAN OFFICIATE. IF NOT THEN THE COUPLE FIGURE OUT WHAT THEIR VOWS TO EACH OTHER OUGHT TO BE, GATHER THEIR CLOSE FRIENDS AND FAMILY AND INVITE THEM TO WITNESS IT, AS I RECALL I WAS INVITED TO ATTEND A FRIEND’S MARRIAGE WHILE LIVING THERE.

I THINK THE PROTESTS HELD BY THE LGBT COMMUNITY A WHILE BACK TO BE RECOGNIZED IS NOT SO MUCH RECOGNITION FROM THE GOVERNMENTAL APPARATUS, BUT FROM THEIR RELIGIOUS ELDERS, PRIESTS AND PARENTS. INDIA HAS A SOLUTION FOR THAT ALSO. THEY ARE FREE TO FORM THEIR OWN CASTE AND RELIGION, ON CONDITION THAT THEY RESPECT THE BOUNDARIES OF EXISTING ONES.

MY HUSBAND LOVED THESE MEAT PASTRIES. HE GOT BETTER AND MORE ABLE TO DEAL WITH THE SPICIER AND HOTTER ENVIRONMENT. SO WHEN WE RAN OUT OF THEM, HE WANTED ME TO TAKE HIM TO THIS PASTRY SO HE COULD PICK THEM UP FOR HIMSELF. WE WALKED OVER THERE. HE WOULD WALK ON THE SIDEWALK (PAVEMENT) AND I WALKED ON THE STREET. I ASKED HIM TO WALK WITH ME ON THE STREET BECAUSE HE’D BE WALKING THROUGH UNSAFE AND UNCLEAN PARTS OF THE STREET.

UNSAFE BECAUSE THE SIDEWALK IS USUALLY TORN UP BY MULTIPLE ITERATIONS OF ROAD WORK AND NOT ALWAYS REPAIRED BACK TO LEVEL CONDITIONS. UNCLEAN BECAUSE STREET VENDORS OF FRUITS, VEGETABLES, SMALL HOUSEHOLD ITEMS, CLOTHES USUALLY USE IT TO SET UP THEIR TEMPORARY STALLS. NOT ALL OF THEM KEEP IT CLEAN. TRASH CREATED IS THROWN INTO OPEN DRAINS THAT ALWAYS ABUT SHOP ENTRANCES. THE IDEA IS THAT HAVING THE RESOURCES TO ESTABLISH A REAL SHOP THEY WOULD ALSO HAVE THE INTELLIGENCE TO KEEP THE OPEN DRAIN RIGHT BY THEIR DOORSTEP CLEAN. MOST STREET VENDORS COME FROM OUTSIDE THE ENVIRONS OF A CITY AND OFTEN LEAD THE MOST PRIMITIVE LIFESTYLE POSSIBLE.

DON’T GET ME STARTED ON WHAT CAUSES THESE MASSIVE SOCIAL IMBALANCES!!!!

MY HUSBAND REFUSED, FINDING THE STREETS WITH ITS CRAZY DRIVERS UNSAFE. HE PREFERRED TO WALK ON THE PAVEMENT. I SAW THAT HIS BEHAVIOR WAS DRAWING ATTENTION, SO I PERSISTED. HE COUNTERED THAT I SHOULD FOLLOW HIS LEAD AND WALK WITH HIM ON THE PAVEMENT. WE CONTINUED A WHILE OUR SEPARATE WAYS.

WHEN I SAW THAT HE WOULD NOT BUDGE THEN I GOT CONCERNED. I WAS MAKING BETTER HEADWAY THAN HIM BECAUSE HE WAS PICKING HIS WAY THROUGH THE SIDEWALK MAZE, NOT ALWAYS SUCCESSFULLY. SO I WALKED BACK TO JOIN HIM, LISTING THE PROBLEMS AS HE SAW THEM ARISE AHEAD OF HIM.

HE HAD A SLIGHT SMILE ON HIS FACE AS HE CONTINUED TO WALK AND INSIST THAT I FOLLOW HIS LEAD.

WE REACHED THE SHOP. HE PICKED WHAT HE WANTED. THEN HE DECIDED TO SIT ON THE PATIO TO EAT HIS PASTRY. WE SAT TOGETHER EATING. THERE WERE YOUNG COUPLES, STUDENTS WHO ALSO PATRONIZED THE SHOP. ON THE WAY BACK MY HUSBAND WAS AMAZED TO SEE GIRLS TALLER THAN HIM WALKING DOWN THE STREET.

CONFIDENT IN HIS ABILITY TO FIND HIS OWN WAY IN THIS NEIGHBORHOOD, DIFFERENT FROM THE PREVIOUS ONE HE HAD GOTTEN FAMILIAR WITH, THE NEXT DAY HE WENT BY HIMSELF. WE INSISTED THAT HE TAKE A LOCAL PHONE SO HE COULD CALL US IF HE GOT STUCK SOMEWHERE. HE AGREED. SO WE WENT WITH MY BROTHER TO THE LOCAL MALL WHERE WE GOT HIM A CHEAP PHONE THAT COULD BE LEFT BEHIND FOR USE BY A FAMILY MEMBER.

ABOUT AN HOUR AFTER HE LEFT, WE GOT A CALL FROM HIM. HE WAS HUNGRY AND THERE WERE NO SHOPS OPEN AROUND 8:00 AM THAT WOULD SERVE HIM FOOD. MOST EATERIES OPENED AROUND 11 AM OR AFTER. WE POINTED OUT THAT IT WAS A SUNDAY. THE SHOPS THAT WERE OPEN WOULD NOT SELL FOOD.

HE INSISTED ON ME JOINING HIM, SAYING THAT HE WAS IN INDIA, IN BOMBAY, SAID TO BE INDIA’S NEW YORK CITY, AND THERE SHOULD BE SOME EATERY OPEN AT 8:00 AM TO SERVE FOOD. HE WASN’T ASKING FOR FOOD AT 6:00 AM FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!

I WALKED OVER TO WHERE HE WAS. I HAD ALREADY HAD SOME TEA AND BREAKFAST MY MOTHER COOKED. SHE WAS VISITING FOR THE WEEKEND AND LATER WE WERE TO SPEND ABOUT ONE OR TWO DAYS AT THEIR NEW APARTMENT BOUGHT FOR THEM BY MY HUSBAND.

SHE HAD ASSURED US THAT PUTTING THE TWO OF US UP WOULD BE NO PROBLEM AS LONG AS WE DIDN’T MIND THE TINY SIZE OF THE APARTMENT.

MY HUSBAND WAS ACTUALLY AT THIS PLACE THAT SERVED PIZZAS TYPICALLY. IT WAS OPEN AT THE TIME BUT I AM UNCLEAR ON WHAT IT WAS DOING BEING OPEN AT THE TIME. MAYBE THERE WERE STUDENTS THERE FOR THE INTERNET ACCESS, AND THEY ONLY SERVED COFFEE, AKIN TO STARBUCKS. BUT THEN EVEN STARBUCKS SERVES PASTRIES!!! I ASK THEM TO SERVE US SOMETHING AND THEY THROW CORPORATE SHIT AT US. THEY COULD TELL I WAS FROM ABROAD EVEN THOUGH I WAS DRESSED LIKE ANY OTHER INDIAN, IN SALWAR KAMEEZ BELONGING TO MY SISTER-IN-LAW. HOW? FOR ONE I WASN’T AS SLIM AS THEY WERE. SECOND, I WAS WITH A WHITE WESTERNER.

WITH ME BY HIS SIDE, HE WANTED TO EXPLORE FURTHER AHEAD UNTIL HE FOUND A PLACE WHERE HE COULD EAT SOME BREAKFAST, EVEN IF ONLY BREAD AND BUTTER. IN HIS STATE OF HUNGER, HE WANTED SOMEONE MORE COOL HEADED AND LOCAL TO NEGOTIATE WITH SHOPKEEPERS FOR WHAT HE WANTED. HE WASN’T CONFIDENT THAT HE’D GET WHAT HE ASKED FOR, IN HIS STATE OF HUNGER. VENDORS HAVE INSTINCTS THAT SUSS OUT NEED AND WILL HOLD OUT FOR MORE.

WE FIND ONE PLACE THAT SERVES TEA. I ASK IF THEY HAVE BREAD AND BUTTER. THEY DO. SO I ASK FOR A GLASS OF MILK AND BREAD AND BUTTER, WITH TEA FOR MYSELF. THEY BRING IT OUT TO US. WHEN THEY SEE WHO WOULD BE EATING THEY OFFER TO TOAST THE BREAD LIGHTLY AND ADD SUGAR IF SO DESIRED. THUS HE GETS SOME BREAKFAST OUTSIDE IN A RESTAURANT. BUT HE WOULDN’T HAVE KNOWN WHAT TO ASK FOR BECAUSE HE WOULDN’T KNOW WHAT WOULD BE COMMONLY OFFERED IN LOCAL SUBURBAN EATERIES (HOTELS AS THEY ARE COMMONLY CALLED).

WE RETURN HOME AND RELATE OUR ADVENTURES. LATER THAT AFTERNOON I GO SHOPPING WITH MY SISTER-IN-LAW FOR SARIS AND SALWAR KAMEEZ. I BUY FIVE OF THEM EACH AFTER TRYING THEM ON IN A TINY DRESSING ROOM.

THE SAME EVENING, MY BROTHER TAKES US BACK TO THAT INTERNET CAFE OR COFFEE SHOP WHERE THEY SERVE TEA OR COFFEE OR MILK WITH PASTRIES. I THINK MY HUSBAND ASKS FOR A STRAWBERRY SHAKE AND HE GETS THAT. SO HE IS SATISFIED.

MY BROTHER APOLOGIZES ON THE BEHALF OF ALL THE BUSINESSES MY HUSBAND HAD ENCOUNTERED SO FAR.

HE CONTINUES TO PRESS HOME HIS POINT ON WHY HE NEEDS TO WORK IN HIS SPECIALTY – SALES AND MARKETING – ABROAD. THERE IS NOTHING HE KNOWS TO DO TO MAKE HIS REPORTS CHANGE THEIR WAYS. IT HAS TO COME FROM SOME CORPORATE HEAD SOMEWHERE BEFORE THEY DO MORE THAN THE BARE MINIMUM. THAT IS WHY HE PREFERS THE MULTINATIONAL FOOD CHAINS SUCH AS MCDONALDS, TGI FRIDAYS AND OTHERS OF THEIR ILK. THEY HAVE CORPORATE STANDARDS OF SERVICE THEY HAVE TO MAINTAIN – THE FOOD ITSELF BEING ADJUSTED TO LOCAL CULTURE.

TO MAKE UP FOR ALL THE CRAP WE HAD TO PUT UP SO FAR, HE OFFERS TO TAKE US TO THE MALL THE NEXT DAY. THERE’D BE BOOKSTORES, PLENTY OF RESTAURANTS, A/C, AND OTHER ITEMS ON OFFER.

BY THE TIME WE LEAVE THE NEXT DAY FOR THE MALL, MY HUSBAND IS EXHAUSTED. I FORGET WHERE WE WERE EARLIER IN THE DAY. BUT WE WERE WANDERING AROUND EVERYWHERE BEING CHAUFFERED BY MY BROTHER. I BELIEVE THE FAMILY MIGHT HAVE DECIDED TO ADD ONE OR TWO STOPS PRIOR TO THE MALL, THINKING THAT IF THEY WERE TO EAT IN THE MALL, THEY’D BETTER GET ESSENTIAL SHOPPING OUT OF THE WAY. SO WE GO GROCERY SHOPPING TO A TWO STOREYED SUPERMARKET. THEN WE STOP BY NATRAJ MARKET IN MALAD TO PICK UP EITHER JEWELRY OR SOME OTHER ITEM. THEN WE MAKE TRACKS TO THE MALL. BY NOW MY HUSBAND IS STARVING WITH BATTERIES CONSIDERABLY LOWERED. HE WAS AMUSING HIMSELF BY CHATTING WITH HIS NIECE AND NEPHEW AND RUNNING LOW ON ENERGY. PERCEIVING THE PRESENCE OF AN OVERSEAS COUPLE COMFORTABLY ENSCONCED WITHIN A TRADITIONAL GUJARATI NUCLEAR FAMILY, THE COVERT PRESSURES ON MY BROTHER AND HIS WIFE GREW TO CAPITALIZE ON THIS SOURCE OF SALES REVENUE FURTHER. ON THE WAY TO THE MALL MY HUSBAND EXPRESSED HIS EXHAUSTION TO US, BUT IS CONSOLED WITH REST AND RECREATION AT THE MALL. HE LOOKS TO ME FOR SUPPORT BUT I DON’T PROVIDE IT. I HAVE FORGOTTEN THE ART OF ASSERTING MYSELF COMPLETELY, AND GOTTEN INTO A FULL TIME PANDERING-TO-CHASE-STATUS MODE.

AT THE MALL, THINGS GET WORSE. THE BOOKSTORE PROVES TO BE A DUD. HE WANTS TO MOVE ON, BUT I FIND SANSKRIT HYMNS OF INTEREST AND DESIST, ALL IN FRONT OF MY MOTHER. HIS BLOOD BEGINS TO BOIL SLOWLY. THEN HE INSISTS ON GETTING SOME FOOD. SO WE GO INTO A STANDARD INDIAN CUISINE RESTAURANT. IT IS A VEGETARIAN RESTAURANT – NO MEAT. INSTEAD OF MOVING WE REMAIN THERE. WE DOUBT THE EXISTENCE OF NON-VEG EATERIES WITHIN THE MALL. WE ORDER POTATO AND PEA BASED DRY CURRY WITH ROTI FOR HIM. OUR FOOD ARRIVES. WE EAT.

UPON OUR RETURN WE HAVE A FIGHT.

NOW THERE WOULD BE EVIDENCE FOR THE FOLLOWING PEOPLE ON WHAT CONSTITUTES AN ALPHA MALE:

1. FOR MY SISTER-IN-LAW THAT IT WOULD BE ALRIGHT IF HER HUSBAND BERATED AND SCOLDED HER, LIKE SHE OVERHEARS HER STEP FATHER DO SO TO HIS WIFE, HER MOTHER. HE WAS NOT DOING IT BECAUSE SHE HAD A CHILD FROM ANOTHER MAN. HE WAS DOING IT BECAUSE THAT IS HOW MEN CONTROL WOMEN. HER OWN HUSBAND’S PEACEFUL AND INDIRECT HANDLING OF HER WAS NOT WHAT REAL MEN DO. AS PROOF, HER HUSBAND CANNOT EVEN SUCCEED WITHOUT HER PARENTS’ HELP;

– IF MY SISTER-IN-LAW LOST CONFIDENCE IN HERSELF SHE WOULD NOT LEARN TO SPEAK ENGLISH. SHE WOULD NOT THREATEN HER HUSBAND’S NEMESIS ON HIS WAY UP THE CORPORATE LADDER IN INDIA.

– WITH HER PARENTS WEAKENED, MY NIECE WOULD NOT USE HER NATURAL TALENTS TO SUCCEED AND BE VIRTUOUS AT THE SAME TIME.

– WITH HIS PARENTS WEAKENED, MY NEPHEW WOULD LEARN NOT TO THWART OLDER WOMEN AROUND HIM WHO FEED HIM REGULAR MEALS LIKE AN ANIMAL IN THE ZOO. HE WOULD SIMULTANEOUSLY BECOME THEIR BEST ATTACK DOG AND A FAVORED TOY IN THEIR ENDLESS “KRISHNA LEELA” ENTERTAINMENT.

2. FOR MY BROTHER IT WAS A GENTLE WARNING NOT TO BECOME COSMOPOLITAN IN HIS OUTLOOK. I RECALL HIM COMMENTING THAT SEEING MY HUSBAND’S PLAYFUL ENGAGEMENT WITH HIS CHILDREN AND THINKING ABOUT HIS YOUNGER BROTHER’S ACTIVE INVOLVEMENT IN HIS CHILDREN’S ACTIVITIES, HE OUGHT TO SHOWER MORE LOVE ON HIS WIFE AND KIDS. BY LOVE HE MEANT SPENDING MORE TIME WITH THEM AND LESS ON CHASING MONEY. IF HE LEFT HIS MONEY MAKING WAYS THEN WHO WOULD SUPPORT THOSE PLANNED INCREASES IN FREIGHT CHARGES FOR THEIR “ESSENTIAL” RELIGIOUS SERVICES.

3. FOR MY HUSBAND THAT IT WAS ALRIGHT TO RAISE HIS VOICE TO SCARE ME – NO NEED TO BE AFRAID TO UPSET THAT SEXUALLY ABUSED SLUM GIRL. SHE’S JUST A BIT UPPITY FOR HER BRITCHES WITH HER SUCCESSES IN THE US DEALING WITH PROFESSORS IN COLLEGES, WITH COLLEAGUES AT WORK, WITH LIBERAL FRIENDS, WITH EVANGELICAL PEERS.

4. FOR SPONSORS AND INVESTORS THEY HAD PROOF OF WHO IS THE WEAK LINK AND IN WHAT DIMENSION, IN BOTH THE US AND IN INDIA.

5. FOR NEIGHBORS IN THE VICINITY THAT THEY OUGHT TO BE CONTENT IN THEIR ALLOTED SHARE OF FORTUNE BECAUSE NEITHER SIBLING IS COMPLETELY SUCCESSFUL AND VIRTUOUS.

6. AND IF AFTER ALL THESE MACHINATIONS MY BROTHER SUCCEEDS WITH HIS WIFE TO RISE UP THE CORPORATE LADDER THEN THE PATTERN OF OPEN FIGHTS BETWEEN THEM WOULD IDENTIFY THEM TO THE INCUMBENT THAT THESE WERE STILL INFERIOR TO THEM AND COULD BE CONDESCENDED TO WITHOUT FEAR.

THIS ENABLED THE ISKCon CROWD TO ATTEMPT TO GET BACK INTO SOCIAL GOOD GRACES WORLDWIDE AFTER THE BATH THEY TOOK WITH THEIR CHILD ABUSE SCANDALS IN THE 70s THROUGHOUT THE GLOBE.

IN THIS ENDEAVOR THEY HAD THE ACTIVE HELP OF WORLDWIDE CHRISTIAN ORGANIZATIONS, ESPECIALLY THE EVANGELICAL ONES.

– IT WAS IN THEIR INTEREST TO HELP ISKCon SUCCEED IN THE STATES. IT WAS EXOTIC ENOUGH IN ITS EASTERN AURA THAT IT WOULD CONTROL THEIR WOMEN;

– ITS SUCCESS WOULD GIVE EVANGELICAL CHRISTIANS THEIR EXCUSE TO SUCCESSFULLY PRESSURE THE INDIAN GOVERNMENT TO CHANGE THEIR LAWS TO MAKE PROSELYTIZATION LEGAL;

– THIS WOULD BREAK THE INDIAN CONSTITUTION’S KEY CONCEPT THAT ENABLES IT TO HOLD ITSELF TOGETHER INSPITE OF COMMUNAL RIOTS BETWEEN HINDUS AND MUSLIMS;

– AS FOR THE GUJARAT RIOTS, AS I HAVE MENTIONED ELSEWHERE GUJARAT FORMS PART OF THAT BELT OF STATES ALONG WITH RAJASTHAN, HARYANA, KASHMIR AND PUNJAB THAT BORDER PAKISTAN. IT IS EASY TO FOMENT STRIFE AND RIOTS BETWEEN THE TWO RELIGIONS IN THOSE LANDS.

– WITH THE BREAKING OF THE CONTRACT, THE DISSOLUTION OF THE INDIAN REPUBLIC WOULD ACCELERATE, LEAVING IT RIPE FOR ANOTHER GO AT A CHRISTIAN NATION, THIS TIME WITHOUT THE PESKY SEPARATION OF FEDERAL POWER FROM THAT OF THE STATES THING.

– MEANWHILE ISKCon CAN CONTINUE ON ITS QUEST TO REMOVE ANY MEANINGFUL INFORMATION FROM THE INDIAN SCRIPTURES, IN READINESS FOR IT TO BE THROWN ASIDE FOR THEIR OWN MULTINATIONAL, MULTI-LINGUAL, HALF-ASSED HOLY BOOK THAT COULD BE ADDED TO WITH IMPUNITY BY INCREASINGLY ARGUMENTATIVE WOMEN. AND MEN WHO ENJOY HIDING BEHIND SUCH WOMEN.

THE NEXT EVENING AFTER MY HUSBAND RECOVERED, MY BROTHER TOOK HIM OUT TO A PIZZA PARLOR, AN-NIGHT PIZZA PARLOR VERY POPULAR WITH INDIANS, ESPECIALLY GUJARATIS WHO LIKE TO GET UP LATE AND STAY UP LATE, EATING OUT. IN MUMBAI THEY USED TO LIKE TO DO SO, THROUGHOUT THE CITY.

NO LONGER!!!! EVANGELICAL PRESSURES FROM OVERSEAS INDIANS WITH THEIR MONEY, THEIR CONNECTIONS, THEIR OBVIOUS SUCCESS AND ACCEPTANCE AMONG THE ELITE HAS BEEN CHANGING THAT! SUBURBS ARE SEGREGATING FROM EACH OTHER. SUBURBS THAT ARE FIVE MINUTES AWAY FROM EACH OTHER ALONG THE CITY COMMUNTER TRAIN THAT RUNS EVERY FEW MINUTES, AND RUNS ALL DAY AND NIGHT.

WE ENJOYED THE PIZZA, THE CONVERSATION, THE PEOPLE WATCHING. I COULDN’T KEEP UP THEN. THE PARLOR REMAINED OPEN LONG AFTER WE LEFT FOR THE NIGHT. NO WONDER THEY COULDN’T SERVE BREAKFAST TO MY HUSBAND. THESE DAYS I CAN’T SLEEP SO I MIGHT BE ABLE TO ENJOY IT ALSO. MY HUSBAND IS SO HAPPY WITH THE SERVICE AT THE PIZZA PARLOR THAT HE LEAVES ALL THE INDIAN CURRENCY HE HAD WITHDRAWN FROM THE LOCAL HSBC ATM AS TIP FOR THE HELPFUL STAFF MEMBERS. AS WE WALK HOME FROM THE PARLOR THE PIZZA DUDE RUNS AFTER US SHOUTING FOR OUR ATTENTION TRYING TO RETURN THE MASSIVE TIP LEFT BEHIND THINKING IT TO BE A MISTAKE. WE CONVINCE HIM IT IS NOT A MISTAKE.

THE REST OF OUR TRIP PROCEEDS RELATIVELY PEACEFULLY. WE ARE DROPPED OFF AT THE AIRPORT. OUR NIECE GIVES US HER KRISHNA KEY CHAIN TO TAKE WITH US. MY HUSBAND IS AGHAST AT RECEIVING IT. OUR BAGGAGE WAS FULL AND YET I COULDN’T REFUSE IT. THUS WAS A MARKER SET ON MY CARRY-ON LUGGAGE FOR THE PUBLIC TO SEE. IN LONDON MY CARRY-ON LUGGAGE WAS SUBJECT TO DETAILED SEARCH, WHILE MY HUSBAND’S WASN’T. BLAME IT ON THAT STUPID LITTLE TOY KRISHNA!

SUCH IS THE POWER OF FILIAL LOVE THAT I DIDN’T THROW IT UNTIL YEARS LATER. BY THEN THE DAMAGE WAS THEN! EVIDENCE OF RELIGIOUS PLAYBOOK!!!!

LOOKING AT MY PICTURES FROM THIS TIME IT’S FUNNY TO NOTICE HOW MUCH WEIGHT I WAS GAINING AROUND MY UPPER TORSO – I GUESS ANGER WAS BUILDING UP BUT I WAS NOT AWARE OF IT – I ONLY SENSED IT AS MORE AND MORE STRESS THAT FREQUENT MASSAGES WITH TEEL DIDN’T ALLEVIATE. TEEL GIFTS ME WITH MAYAN RELIGION SLANTED SPIRITUAL BOOK THAT SHE SWORE BY. AGAIN I AM UNABLE TO REFUSE.

ON OUR RETURN FROM INDIA I LEARN ABOUT YASSI’S NEW STUDIO IN RICHARDSON. I GIVE IT A TRY, FIND IT CONGENIAL AND SIGN UP FOR ANNUAL MEMBERSHIP. DID I MENTION THAT ITS WALLS WERE A DARK BLUE IN COLOR? AND ITS HEIGHT SUFFICIENTLY HIGH THAT THE SENSATION OF HEAT BUILDUP SEEMED LESSENED? THAT WAS THEN. AS YOU WILL FIND OUT IF YOU READ MORE OF THIS TIMELINE THE HEAT AND HUMIDITY OF A BIKRAM YOGA ROOM OPERATING AT 105 DEGREES FAHRENHEIT AND 30% HUMIDITY PROVED TO BE NOTHING COMPARED TO THE STRESS AND DEHYDRATION FROM INCREASING CONFLICTS OF A RELIGIOUS AND MYSTICAL NATURE.

IS THERE A TRUE BIKRAM YOGA STUDIO LEFT IN NORTH TEXAS?

FEBRUARY 4, 2015

I SIGN UP FOR ONE MONTH OF BIKRAM YOGA AT DALLAS MOCKINGBIRD STUDIO. UNTIL NOW I HAD NOTICED THAT THE LAST CLASS IS AT 6:30 PM. AFTER THE FIRST ONE OR TWO CLASSES (NOT TAKEN SEQUENTIALLY) I REALIZE THAT THEY HAVE A CLASS AT 8:15 PM. I FIND OUT BY ACCIDENT BECAUSE I FORGET THE AVAILABLE TIMES BETWEEN ITS TWO LOCATIONS – WEST VILLAGE AND MOCKINGBIRD STUDIOS – ON A WEEKEND, WHEN THE TIMES ARE NOT COINCIDENT WITH THE WEEKDAY TIMES.

IS IT A CASE OF MY RE-ATTENDANCE COINCIDING WITH SUDDEN INCREASED MEMBERSHIP? FLATTERING AS THE THOUGHT MAY BE, IT SMELLS FISHY. DURING ONE OF THESE EARLY CLASSES CO-OWNER, KAREN BUCKNER ASKS ME TO ATTEND THEIR WEEKLY ADVANCED CLASSES HELD EVERY SATURDAY FROM 12 NOON TO 2:00 PM. I AM RELUCTANT TO ATTEND REMEMBERING THE EXPERIENCE FROM THE LAST TIME I ATTENDED SUCH A TRAINING ABOUT SIX MONTHS EARLIER. SHE CAUTIONS THAT THE FIRST TWO WEEKS WERE ALLOCATED TO SOME VISITING JIG OF SYNERGY OR PARTNER YOGA SHIT.

I THANK HER FOR HER INVITATION, THINKING IT MAY A GOOD THING TO DO SO. IF I HAPPEN TO REMEMBER WHEN THE TIME COMES.

DURING THESE FIRST TWO CLASSES, BOTH ATINA PEGRAM AND JULIE BENDIN EXHORT NEW STUDENTS TO SIGN UP FOR A 30-DAY CHALLENGE (THAT ALLOWS ONE DAY OFF EVERY WEEK, HUH?) TO RECEIVE AN ADDITIONAL MONTH FOR FREE. I DON’T BITE. I PRACTICE DAILY AT HOME IN THE MORNING AND I WANTED TO KEEP THESE MORNING SESSIONS PRIVATE. I ONLY WANTED TO ATTEND STUDIO FOR THE 6:30 PM CLASS – TO BREAK MY PERSONAL RESISTANCE TO THAT TIME FOR PRACTICE.

THIS MONTH IS BUSY SO I MISS A FEW DAYS. I FORGET WHAT DAY IT WAS. END OF SECOND WEEK I END UP ATTENDING A FRIDAY CLASS AT 6:30 PM TAUGHT BY JULIE. HMM! SHE IS CONFUSED. SHE IS EXPECTING THIS CLASS TO BE OF 60 MINUTE DURATION AND IS UPSET AT FINDING IT TO BE 90 MINUTES LONG. HUH! A HOLLOW FEELING IN THE PIT OF MY BELLY. TURNS OUT THIS 8:15 PM CLASS IS ONLY ONE HOUR LONG, ENDING AT 9:15 PM. I HAD BEEN LIED TO. WHAT DID I EXPECT FROM HER?

I ATTEND THE FOLLOWING WEEK AT 4:30 AND 6:30 PM. I HAD NO INTENTION OF LANDING IN THAT 60 MINUTE ABOMINATION. THE THOUGHT REMAINED THAT IT WAS GEARED TO SUNSTONE STUDENTS WANTING A SOUPCON OF BIKRAM WITH NO RESPONSIBILITY. IT’S BEEN A WHILE SINCE I UNDERTOOK A BACK-TO-BACK DOUBLE 90 MINUTE CLASS. IT GOES FINE. I SWEAT BUCKETS. I AM STRONGER IN THE SECOND CLASS. I RETURN AGAIN THE NEXT DAY FOR THE SAME EXPERIENCE.

AT THE END OF THIS CLASS I SEE THE PEOPLE ATTENDING THAT 60 MINUTE EXPRESS YOGA. THEY ARE OLD AND DECREPIT. AH! I THINK! IT’S AN IMITATION OF THAT WANNA BE BIKRAM STUDIO IN A MINNEAPOLIS SUBURB, EAGAN, I THINK, THAT CATERS TO OLD PEOPLE. SOME DAY I’LL WRITE ABOUT THAT STUDIO AND WHAT I SAW THERE. SURE IT WAS CALLED BIKRAM YOGA. BUT MANY YEARS AGO, IT WAS THE FIRST INSTANCE OF WHAT I CALL THE OLD-PEOPLE-DON’T-WANNA-WORK-HARD YOGA.

THAT DOUBLE IS THE LAST TIME I ATTEND. WORK WITH MY HUSBAND SEEMS TO GET BUSIER AND BUSIER. I FORGET WHAT DAY IT IS. BUT WE MAKE GOOD PROGRESS TOGETHER. AND LET’S NOT FORGET. THE WHOLE REASON I STARTED BIKRAM YOGA WAS FOR MY HEALTH. THOSE FEW CLASSES I ATTENDED THIS LAST MONTH SHOWED ME THAT THERE WAS NOTHING MISSING FROM MY PRACTICE. IF ANYTHING THE STUDENTS WERE WORSE THAN BEFORE. THEY WANDERED IN AND OUT WHEN THEY PLEASED. THE TEACHERS ALLOWED IT TO HAPPEN. THERE WAS NOTHING THERE FOR ME ANY MORE. WITH THE SNOW DAYS WE’VE HAD IN NORTH DALLAS, THIS LAST WEEK WAS GOING TO BE MOSTLY A WASHOUT ANYWAY.

AND YES, THERE WAS ONE GIRL WHO WAS STAYING TO DO A “DOUBLE BACK-TO-BACK” CLASS AT 6:30 PM AND 8:15 PM. THAT WAS CHEATING I THOUGHT. HOW CAN A 60 MINUTE CLASS COUNT TO A CHALLENGE? BUT WHAT DO I KNOW ABOUT SUCH ELEVATED CONCEPTS! JULIE ACTUALLY ASKED IF I’D LIKE TO STAY FOR A TRIPLE CLASS. OR WAS IT ATINA? I CAN’T RECALL. SO MUCH HAS HAPPENED SINCE THEN. THEY ARE WELCOME TO LIE TO THEMSELVES.

I DON’T.

MARCH 4, 2014

TODAY IS THE LAST DAY OF MY ONE MONTH BIKRAM YOGA BOUGHT WITH LOVE FOR OUR ANNIVERSARY BY MY HUSBAND FOR ME. I WONDERED IDLY HOW MIGHT I BE CHEATED, HOW MIGHT WE BE CHEATED OUT OF THIS GIFT! THIS IS HOW. THANKFULLY I SPLIT THE COST OF THIS GIFT.

IT AIN’T EVEN THE IDES OF MARCH YET, PRECIOUS-ES!!!!! REMEMBER THAT CAESAR WAS STABBED BY BRUTUS ON THE 15TH OF MARCH! CAREFUL OUT THERE!

AS FOR BIKRAM YOGA RICHARDSON – THEY STILL PARTICIPATE IN YOGA COMPETITIONS. THE LAST TIME I CHECKED.

EVANGELICAL INFLUENCE OVER AYN RAND’S LEGACY – PART 1

MARCH 2, 2015:

AT LUNCH TODAY MY HUSBAND STARTS ACCUSING MY MOTHER OF SNOBBERY BECAUSE
1. MY GRANDMA CHANGED HER LAST NAME FROM TUNGA OR THUNGA (ANGLICIZED TUNGA V/S INDIANIZED THUNGA, POONA V/S PUNE, TANJORE VS THANJAVUR, MADRAS VS CHENNAI, CALCUTTA VS KOLKATA) TO RAO;

2. MY MOTHER EXPECTED HER OLDEST DAUGHTER-IN-LAW TO SWEEP THE FLOOR, JUST AS I HAVE DONE IN THE PAST AND MY MOTHER STILL DID UNTIL HER STROKE WHEN WE VISITED THEM IN 1998 FOR THE YOUNGEST BROTHER’S MARRIAGE. DID HE FORGET HER SWEEPING THE FLOOR WHEN WE VISITED THEM IN BOTH HOMES, THE OLD TENEMENT AND THE NEW APARTMENT? WAS THAT JUST HIS DUES AS A WHITE AMERICAN REPRESENTING CHRISTIANITY? INSPITE OF NUMEROUS REPETITIOUS EXPLANATIONS THAT HE IS AN AGNOSTIC AT BEST? IT’S CALLED THE ACT-STUPID TACTIC EMPLOYED BY EVANGELICALS EVERYWHERE.

WRONG ON BOTH COUNTS.

1. BOTH NAMES, TUNGA OR THUNGA (SIMILAR TO THE ANGLICISED TANJORE AND INDIANIZED THANJAVUR, POONA V/S PUNE, TANJORE VS THANJAVUR, MADRAS VS CHENNAI, CALCUTTA VS KOLKATA) AND RAO ARE APPROPRIATE LAST NAMES FOR KOTA BRAHMINS IN THE SOUTH. THEY INDICATE THAT WE ARE KOTA BRAHMINS,** THOSE THAT FOLLOW THE SMARTA TRADITION.*** THESE FOLKS ARE CONSIDERED TO BE THE MOST LIBERAL AMONG THE HINDU BRAHMINS. AT THE SAME TIME THEY RECITE SANSKRIT HYMNS. A DISTINGUISHING FEATURE OF SMARTA TRADITION IS THAT THEY EMPHASISE THE DEVELOPMENT AND MAINTAINANCE OF ONE’S MEMORY. HENCE THEY RECITE WHAT THEY RECALL OF THEIR PAST ON A REGULAR BASIS. KOTA BRAHMINS ARE SAID TO BE BROUGHT TO SOUTHWESTERN INDIA BY PARASHURAMA.**** FURTHERMORE HE RECLAIMS THE LANDS KNOWN AS GOA, KARNATAKA, KERALA, KONKAN AND MAHARASHTRA FROM THE ARABIAN SEA, SO THAT THESE LANDS ARE CALLED PARASHURAMA KSHETRA, OR LAND OF PARASHURAMA.

2. PART OF BEING ACCEPTED INTO A FAMILY IS ADOPTING ITS DAILY PRACTICE. EVERYDAY AFTER LUNCH IS SERVED, EATEN AND CLEANED OUT, MY MOTHER HAS SWEPT ALL ROOMS OF OUR HOUSE, BENT ON HER KNEES. LATER I WOULD DO SO. SO DID SOME OF MY BROTHERS. IT IS HOW MY MOTHER MAINTAINED HER WAISTLINE WELL INTO HER 50s, WAS ABLE TO CLIMB ROPE NETS BETTER THAN ANY OF US, SWING HIGH ON SWINGS WITH AND GENERALLY KEEP UP WITH HER GRANDCHILDREN’S GENERATION. NO OTHER FAMILY IN OUR NEIGHBORHOOD WOULD SWEEP THE FLOOR LIKE SHE DID. IT COOLED THE CONCRETE FLOOR SO THAT WE COULD ALL HAVE AFTERNOON NAPS UNDER THE CEILING FAN. AJAY SHUKLA, GURU TO THE MANEK SONS, WOULD COME TO OUR HOUSE AT THAT TIME. SO WOULD JYOTI SHAH AND OTHER NEIGHBORS, WHEN THEY WANTED TO SEW OR MAKE HANDCRAFTED PURSES, BAGS, CLOTHES, ETC. WITH MY MOTHER. HMM! THE NAPS WE HAD ON THAT COOL FLOOR WITH THE FANS WHIRLING ABOVE!

SO WHEN MY HUSBAND ATTACKS MY MOTHER OUT OF THE BLUE – I HAVE NOT EVEN PUBLISHED THE ESSAY ABOUT THE EVANGELICAL GAME PLAN AS IT APPLIES TO EVANGELICAL CHRISTIAN INTENTIONS IN THE SOUTHERN US STATES, IN AFRICA, IN CHINA, IN INDIA – WHAT DO YOU THINK IS HAPPENING? ESPECIALLY WHEN AT THE END OF MY EXPLANATION ABOUT THE LOWER SOCIAL STATUS OF OUR FAMILY IN BOMBAY, MY HUSBAND FELT COMPELLED TO APOLOGISE TO ME, AFTER REGURGITATING THE CRAP PEDDLED BY CHATEAU HEARTISTE (SECULAR ROISSY VS EVANGELICAL CHRISTIAN CHATEAU HEARTISTE) ABOUT MEN NOT SAYING SORRY… COMBINE THIS WITH THAT EVANGELICAL CHRISTIAN FAMILY LIVING ON OUR STREET, AND YOU SEE WHAT IS BEING FORCED ON MY HUSBAND. IF YOU HAVE ANY DOUBT NOTE THE CHOICE OF TITLE FOR THE WEBSITE, ESPECIALLY THE WORD CHATEAU, MEANING PALACE. YOU GET THE DRIFT? OR AS BIKRAM CHOUDHURY WOULD SAY, YOU FOLLOW ME?

CODA:

I REALIZE THESE THINGS BY RECITING THE PRAYERS TAUGHT BY MY MOTHER, WHO WAS TAUGHT BY HER FOSTER PARENTS. THE PRAYERS BEGIN BY INVOKING THE BLESSINGS OF GODDESS SHARADA, LIVING IN KASHMIR, AND INCLUDE ONE COMPOSED BY ADI SHANKARACHARYA***** ON THE ROLE OF GURU AND MAHALAKSHMI, NAMED GURUSTOTRAM AND MAHALAKSHMASTATAMSTOTRAM. YOU MUST REALIZE THAT IT TOOK GREAT COURAGE AND RELENTLESS DEDICATION TO THE SEEKING OF TRUTH FOR ADI SHANKARACHARYA TO WRITE THE HYMNS DEDICATED TO MAHALAKSHMI. INCIDENTALLY WHILE SHARADA IS ALLOTED THE TITLE ‘DEVI’, MAHALAKSHMI IS NOT. WHICH IS WHY HIS COURAGE AND PURSUIT IS DOUBLY COMMENDABALE FOR THOSE DAYS. THESE DAYS SHARADA IS SOLD IN BROTHELS (THAT NEIGHBOR OF MINE WHO DIED OF AIDS) AND MAHALAKSHMI (HINDU TEMPLES OUTSIDE INDIA) REVERED IN TEMPLES. GO FIGURE!

I END THESE BY RECITING THE GAYATRI MANTRA TO RECALL MY PATERNAL GRANDMOTHER’S STRUGGLE TO RETAIN HOLD OF HER MIND IN THE FACE OF RELENTLESS CHALLENGES THAT LED TO HER DEATH AT THE AGE OF FORTY EIGHT. WOMEN IN THE TUNGA LINE DO NOT ENJOY A LONG LIFE. IF THEY REMAIN HEALTHY OF BODY THEN THEIR MINDS COME UNDER ATTACK. WITNESS THE BRAIN ANEURYSMS SUFFERED BY MY COUSIN SISTER, MY MOTHER AND, MAYBE, THE AFOREMENTIONED GRANDMA. OTHER WOMEN DIED FROM BEING DEVOTED TO THEIR HUSBANDS, SUCH AS MY MATERNAL GRANDMOTHER WHOSE SARI PALLO CAUGHT FIRE AS SHE WAS REACHING OVER TO REMOVE THE COOKED FOOD TO SERVE HER FIVE CHILDREN; SUCH AS MY PATERNAL GREAT-GRANDMOTHER WHO WAS BLIND, WHOSE MEANS OF DEATH IS UNCLEAR BUT IT IS KNOWN THAT SHE DIED WITH HER HUSBAND WHEN GRANDPA TUNGA WAS NINE YEARS OLD. THEIR DEATH PAVED THE WAY FOR FINANCIAL SHENANIGANS. BEING BLIND DIDN’T PREVENT HER FROM RAISING A SON WHO GREW UP TO BE A SCHOOL TEACHER AFTER FIGHTING OFF NUMEROUS ATTEMPTS ON HIS LIFE.

NOTES AND REFERENCES: (SOURCE: WIKIPEDIA)
I SUSPECT THE IMAGES ARE NOT ATTACHED TO THE APPROPRIATE PARAGRAPH. SO I HAVE NOT COPIED THEM HERE. I FOUND THIS OUT WHILE REVIEWING THE HISTORIES OF THE NATIONS THAT FORM SOUTH ASIA, MAINLY INDIA AND PAKISTAN AND BANGLADESH (EAST PAKISTAN).

** ABOUT KOTA BRAHMINS:

Kota Brahmins hail from the Kundapur and surrounding areas of Udupi district in Karnataka, Bantwal and Puttur Taluk in Mangalore District, Kasargod District in Kerala. Originally thought to have been brought to Kota (Udupi Taluk) and adjacent areas from northern India by Parashurama, they speak a Kannada different from the other regional dialects.

Kota Brahmins who had been originally concentrated in the villages of Kota, Saligrama, Koteshwara and Kundapura of Udupi district have apparently spread to other areas.

ORIGIN

The Kota Brahmins remained as bhasma (ash)-dharis and followers of the Smarta

tradition.

SurNames
Sharma, Adhikari, Adiga, Aithala or Aithal, Alse, Athri, Baasri, Bhat, Biliya, Gota (Koteshwara), Hande, Hathwara (Koteshwara), Hebbar (Madhwa, Koteshwara), Herle, Holla, Ibhat, Karanth, Kedlaya or Kedilaya, Madhyastha, Maiya or Mayya, Manja, Nakshathri, Navada, Rao, Somayaji, Thunga, Udupa (Kandavara), Upadhyaya, Upadhya, Urala, Rao, Bayar.

Caste

Kotas are the subsect of Brahmin caste of Hinduism.

THUNGA IS THE MODERN INDIANIZED SPELLING OF TUNGA. THERE IS NO ‘H’ SOUND WHEN PRONOUNCING THE NAME.

*** ABOUT SMARTA TRADITION:

Shankara and Advaita Vedanta
The majority of members of Smarta community follow the Advaita Vedanta philosophy of Adi Shankara Acharya. Smarta and Advaita have become almost synonymous, though not all Advaitins are Smartas.[7]

Traditionally, Shankara (8th century) is regarded as the greatest teacher and reformer of the Smarta.[1][20][2] According to Hinduism-guide.com:
Not all Brahmins specialized in this Smriti tradition. Some were influenced by Buddhism, Jainism or Charvaka tradition and philosophy. This did not mean that all these people rejected the authority of Vedas, but only that their tradition of worship and philosophy was based not on smriti texts. In time, Shankaracharya brought all the Vedic communities together. He tried to remove the non-smriti aspects that had crept into the Hindu communities. He also endeavoured to unite them by arguing that any of the different Hindu gods could be worshipped, according to the prescriptions given in the smriti texts. He established that worship of various deities are compatible with Vedas and is not contradictory, since all are different manifestations of one nirguna Brahman. Shankaracharya was instrumental in reviving interest in the smritis.[7][note 3]

According to Hiltebeitel, Shankara established the nondualist interpretation of the Upanishads as the touchstone of a revived smarta tradition:
Practically, Shankara fostered a rapprochement between Advaita and smarta orthodoxy, which by his time had not only continued to defend the varnasramadharma theory as defining the path of karman, but had developed the practice of pancayatanapuja (“five-shrine worship”) as a solution to varied and conflicting devotional practices. Thus one could worship any one of five deities (Vishnu, Siva, Durga, Surya, Ganesa) as one’s istadevata (“deity of choice”).[8]

The Sringeri Sharada monastery founded by Adi Shankara Acharya in Karnataka is still the centre of the Smarta sect.[1][2]

**** ABOUT PARASHURAMA:

Beating back the Arabian Sea
Puranas write that the western coast of India was threatened by tumultuous waves and tempests, causing the land to be overcome by the sea. Parashurama fought back the advancing waters, demanding Varuna release the land of Konkan and Malabar. During their fight, Parashurama threw his axe into the sea. A mass of land rose up, but Varuna told him that because it was filled with salt, the land would be barren.[13]

Parashurama then did a tapasya for Nagaraja, the King of Snakes. Parashurama asked him to spread serpents throughout the land so their venom would neutralize the salt filled earth. Nagaraja agreed, and a lush and fertile land grew. Thus, Parashurama pushed back the coastline between the foothills of the Western Ghats and the Arabian Sea, creating modern day Kerala.[13]

The coastal area of Kerala, Konkan, Karnataka, Goa and Maharashtra, are today also known as Parashurama Kshetra or Land of Parashurama in homage.[14] Puranas record that Parashurama placed statues of Shiva at 108 different locations throughout the reclaimed land, which still exist today.[15][16] Shiva, is the source of kundalini, and it around his neck that Nagaraja is coiled, and so the statues were in gratitude for their baneful cleansing of the land.[17]

Then he took a winnowing basket, or Surpa, and threw it at the sea. The water retreated, and from the place the basket fell at Gokarna, land rose again. This land is called Kerala, or ‘Siirparaka’ (Brahmanda Purana, Chapters 98 and 99). It is also said that while beating back the sea, Parashurama fired an arrow from his mystical bow that landed in Goa at Benaulim, creating Salkache Tollem, or ‘Lotus Lake’.[6]

*****ABOUT ADI SHANKARACHARYA:

Sannyasa
At the age of 8, Shankara was inclined towards sannyasa, but it was only after much persuasion that his mother finally gave her consent. According to legend, he received her consent in a very interesting manner too. While bathing in the river Poorna one day, a crocodile caught hold of his leg and appeared to be about to devour him. Shankara appealed to his mother, who had arrived at Poorna, asking for permission to become a sanyasi at least in these last moments of his life. His mother finally gave consent, only to have the crocodile let go of young Shankara. A crocodile had never been found in Poorna ever since[20] Shankara then left Kerala and travelled towards North India in search of a guru. On the banks of the Narmada River, he met Govinda Bhagavatpada the disciple of Gaudapada at Omkareshwar. When Govinda Bhagavatpada asked Shankara’s identity, he replied with an extempore verse that brought out the Advaita Vedanta philosophy. Govinda Bhagavatapada was impressed and took Shankara as his disciple.[21]

The guru instructed Shankara to write a commentary on the Brahma Sutras and propagate the Advaita philosophy. Shankara travelled to Kashi, where a young man named Sanandana, hailing from Chola territory in South India, became his first disciple. According to legend, while on his way to the Vishwanath Temple, an untouchable accompanied by four dogs came in the way of Sankara. When asked to move aside by Shankara’s disciples, the untouchable replied: “Do you wish that I move my ever lasting Ātman (“the Self”), or this body made of flesh?” Realizing that the untouchable was none other than god Shiva himself, and his dogs the four Vedas, Shankara prostrated himself before him, composing five shlokas known as Manisha Panchakam.[22][23]

At Badari he wrote his famous Bhashyas (“commentaries”) and Prakarana granthas (“philosophical treatises”).[24][25]

Meeting with Mandana Mishra
One of the most famous debates of Adi Shankara was with the ritualist Maṇḍana Miśra. Maṇḍana Miśra held the view that the life of a householder was far superior to that of a monk. This view was widely shared and respected throughout India at that time.[26] Thus it would have been important for Adi Shankara to debate with him. Madana Mishra’s guru was the famous Mimamsa philosopher, Kumārila Bhaṭṭa. Shankara sought a debate with Kumārila Bhaṭṭa and met him in Prayag where he had buried himself in a slow burning pyre to repent for sins committed against his guru: Kumārila Bhaṭṭa had learned Buddhist philosophy from his Buddhist guru under false pretenses, in order to be able to refute it. Learning anything without the knowledge of one’s guru while still under his authority constitutes a sin according to the Vedas.[27] Kumārila Bhaṭṭa thus asked Adi Shankara to proceed to Mahiṣmati to meet Maṇḍana Miśra and debate with him instead.(Mahishmati is on the banks of the holy river – Narmada, in Madhya Pradesh. Mahishmati is now known as Mandala. Mandala finds mention in Pauranic literature as the capital of Sahasrabahu Kartyaveer Arjun who had obstructed the river by his thousand arms by his frolicking, at his capital Mahishmati).

After debating for over fifteen days, with Maṇḍana Miśra’s wife Ubhaya Bhāratī acting as referee, Maṇḍana Miśra accepted defeat.[28] Ubhaya Bhāratī then challenged Adi Shankara to have a debate with her in order to ‘complete’ the victory. She asked him questions related to sexual congress between man and woman – a subject in which Shankaracharya had no knowledge, since he was a true celibate and sannyasi. Sri Shankracharya asked for a “recess” of 15 days. As per legend, he used the art of “para-kaya pravesa” (the spirit leaving one’s own body and entering another’s) and exited his own body, which he asked his disciples to look after, and psychically entered the dead body of a king. The story goes that from the King’s two wives, he acquired all knowledge of “art of love”. The queens, thrilled at the keen intellect and robust love-making of the “revived” King, deduced that he was not their husband, as of old. The story continues that they sent their factotums to “look for the lifeless body of a young sadhu and to cremate it immediately” so that their “king” (Shankracharya in the king’s body) would continue to live with them. Just as the retainers piled Shankracharaya’s lifeless corpse upon a pyre and were about to set fire to it, Shankara entered his own body and regained consciousness. Finally, he answered all questions put to him by Ubhaya Bhāratī; and she allowed Maṇḍana Miśra to accept sannyasa with the monastic name Sureśvarācārya, as per the agreed-upon rules of the debate.[29]

Philosophical tour
Adi Shankara then travelled with his disciples to Maharashtra and Srisailam. In Srisailam, he composed Shivanandalahari, a devotional hymn in praise of Shiva. The Madhaviya Shankaravijayam says that when Shankara was about to be sacrificed by a Kapalika, the god Narasimha appeared to save Shankara in response to Padmapadacharya’s prayer to him. As a result, Adi Shankara composed the Laksmi-Narasimha stotra.[30]

He then travelled to Gokarṇa, the temple of Hari-Shankara and the Mūkambika temple at Kollur. At Kollur, he accepted as his disciple a boy believed to be dumb by his parents. He gave him the name, Hastāmalakācārya (“one with the amalaka fruit on his palm”, i.e., one who has clearly realised the Self). Next, he visited sringeri to establish the Śārada Pīṭham and made Sureśvarācārya his disciple.[31]
After this, Adi Shankara began a Dig-vijaya “tour of conquest” for the propagation of the Advaita philosophy by controverting all philosophies opposed to it. He travelled throughout India, from South India to Kashmir and Nepal, preaching to the local populace and debating philosophy with Hindu, Buddhist and other scholars and monks along the way.

With the Malayali King Sudhanva as companion, Shankara passed through Tamil Nadu, Andhra Pradesh and Vidarbha. He then started towards Karnataka where he encountered a band of armed Kapalikas. King Sudhanva, with his Nairs, resisted and defeated the Kapalikas. They safely reached Gokarna where Shankara defeated in debate the Shaiva scholar, Neelakanta.

Proceeding to Saurashtra (the ancient Kambhoja) and having visited the shrines of Girnar, Somnath and Prabhasa and explaining the superiority of Vedanta in all these places, he arrived at Dwarka. Bhaṭṭa Bhāskara of Ujjayini, the proponent of Bhedābeda philosophy, was humbled. All the scholars of Ujjayini (also known as Avanti) accepted Adi Shankara’s philosophy.

He then defeated the Jainas in philosophical debates at a place called Bahlika. Thereafter, the Acharya established his victory over several philosophers and ascetics in Kamboja (region of North Kashmir), Darada and many regions situated in the desert and crossing mighty peaks, entered Kashmir. Later, he had an encounter with a tantrik, Navagupta at Kamarupa.[32]

Accession to Sarvajnapitha
Adi Shankara visited Sarvajñapīṭha (Sharada Peeth) in Kashmir (now in Pakistan Occupied Kashmir).[33] The Madhaviya Shankaravijayam states this temple had four doors for scholars from the four cardinal directions. The southern door (representing South India) had never been opened, indicating that no scholar from South India had entered the Sarvajna Pitha. Adi Shankara opened the southern door by defeating in debate all the scholars there in all the various scholastic disciplines such as Mimamsa, Vedanta and other branches of Hindu philosophy; he ascended the throne of Transcendent wisdom of that temple.[34]

Towards the end of his life, Adi Shankara travelled to the Himalayan area of Kedarnath-Badrinath and attained videha mukti (“freedom from embodiment”). There is a samadhi mandir dedicated to Adi Shankara behind the Kedarnath temple. However, there are variant traditions on the location of his last days. One tradition, expounded by Keraliya Shankaravijaya, places his place of mahasamadhi (leaving the body) as Vadakkunnathan temple in Thrissur, Kerala.[35] The followers of the Kanchi kamakoti pitha claim that he ascended the Sarvajñapīṭha and attained videha mukti in Kanchipuram (Tamil Nadu).

Misandry and Ethnic Identity amongst Spanish-Aztec descendents

2002 –
LATE JULY – EARLY AUGUST –

WE ATTEND A CONFERENCE AT LA JOLLA MISMALOYA, IN PUERTO VALLARTA, MEXICO ORGANIZED BY ISIL – INTERNATIONAL SOCIETY FOR INDIVIDUAL LIBERTY. THE RESORT PROVIDED A 9X11 BOOK ABOUT THE HISTORY OF MEXICO IN EACH ROOM FOR THE GUESTS TO PERUSE. UPON READING IT, WE DISCUSS THE HORNS OF A DILEMMA CONFRONTING A TYPICAL MEXICAN – DO I HATE MY FATHER FOR BEING A RAPIST? OR DO I HATE MY MOTHER FOR BEING SO WEAK AS TO GIVE IN RATHER THAN KILL HERSELF? I THINK THIS DILEMMA WOULD APPLY TO MOST, IF NOT ALL, SPANISH-AZTEC DESCENDENTS, INSIDE AND OUTSIDE MEXICO.

SEEKING RELIGION TO HELP SOLVE THE DILEMMA IS UNDERSTANDABLE.

BUT YOGA IS NOT A RELIGION. NOR IS IT ABOUT A RELIGION. MAKING ALLEGATIONS AND SPREADING RUMORS THAT IT IS A RELIGION MERELY PREVENTS A HUMAN BEING FROM HEALING THE BREACH BETWEEN HIS MIND, BODY AND SOUL.

CERTAINLY ITS IMPACT IS POWERFUL WITH REGULAR PRACTICE. THIS IMPACT IS NOT A MIRACLE. IN OTHER FIELDS OF ENDEAVOR MIRACLE AND SPIRIT-NONSENSE IS NOT ATTRIBUTED TO ACHIEVEMENT AND SUCCESS. WHY DO SO HERE?

2004 –
JANUARY 24, 2004 –

MY FATHER-IN-LAW DIES IN A KANSAS CITY BUS OF A HEART ATTACK WITHOUT ANY FORM OF IDENTIFICATION ON HIM. HE REMAINS UNIDENTIFIED FOR AT LEAST A COUPLE OF DAYS OR SO.
WE LEARN OF HIS DEATH A YEAR OR TWO LATER, WHEN MY HUSBAND ALSO LEARNS THAT HIS FATHER HAD TURNED CATHOLIC TOWARDS THE END OF HIS LIFE AND THAT HIS FATHER’S FAMILY LIVED IN AND AROUND THE CITY.

MARCH 2004 –
MOTHER SLIPS AND FALLS AT BORIVLI BUS STATION AS SHE TRIES TO GET ON TO THE BUS. SHE IS ABOUT TO TURN 60 YEARS OF AGE.

DRESS SIZE CHANGE FROM 8 TO 4; ACNE BREAKOUT ON BACK & CHEEKS; WENT COLD TURKEY INTO AN AYURVEDIC LIFESTYLE, BEGINNING WITH DIETARY CHANGES; SUCCESSFUL.

SOMEWHERE AROUND THIS TIME I NOTICED TEEL ENDING EACH CLASS WITH A ‘NAMASTE’ GREETING. I RESISTED RESPONDING BACK TO IT FOR QUITE A WHILE, AS LONG AS OTHERS DIDN’T FOLLOW HER LEAD. EVENTUALLY I GAVE UP – IT SEEMED RUDE NOT TO RESPOND IN KIND, AND A FEW STUDENTS HAD BEGUN RESPONDING IN KIND.

TEEL BROUGHT HER EXPERIENCE AS A MASSEUSE TO HELP US WITH OCCASIONAL OFF-DIALOGUE COMMENTS. MOST OF THEM WERE USEFUL SUCH AS CALLING OUT MY HABIT OF EXITING POSTURE #21 CAMEL POSE (USTRASANA) WITHOUT USING MY HANDS ON MY BUTT TO SUPPORT A SAFE EXIT. BUT ONE THING THAT BOTHERED ME A BIT WAS HER ANGER AND CONTEMPT FOR BIKRAM HIMSELF. UPON ASKING FOR A REASON, SHE MENTIONED THAT BIKRAM HATED WOMEN AND THAT HE WAS A MISOGYNIST. HE HAD TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF RAJASHREE’S YOUTH IN MOLDING HER TO HIS SPECIFICATIONS, ESSENTIALLY BRAIN-WASHING HER. I GOT THE IMPRESSION THAT SHE THOUGHT RAJASHREE CHOUDHURY WAS A DOORMAT.

LATE FALL, 2004 –
PARTICIPATED IN TEXAS YOGA COMPETITION IN AUSTIN IN LATE 2004, IN DECEMBER. AUSTIN WAS VERY COLD AS WAS THE VENUE ITSELF. NONE OF US COULD GET WARM ENOUGH. MOST OF THE TIME WE ALL HUDDLED TOGETHER IN ONE BIG ROOM PRACTICING, LYING AROUND, AND GETTING MADE UP FOR STAGE. THE NATIONALS WAS HELD THE FOLLOWING YEAR IN 2005. THE TEXAS RUN-UP TO THE NATIONALS WAS HELD LATER THAN ALLOWED BY THE NATIONAL ORGANIZATION – IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN HELD, LATEST, BY OCTOBER’S END, I THINK.

I WAS ONE OF ONLY TWO WOMEN OVER 40 YEARS OLD AT THE EVENT. DURING DINNER ONE OF THE JURORS COMMENTED THAT CAROLYN AND I WERE THE MOST GRACEFUL COMPETITORS, ACCORDING TO . AT THE TIME I THOUGHT THAT IT MIGHT HAVE SOMETHING TO DO WITH THE FACT THAT I HAD SAID NAMASTE TO THE JURORS, HANDS TOGETHER AND A SLIGHT BOW, BEFORE BEGINNING MY ROUTINE. I HAD ADVISED CAROLYN TO TRY SAYING NAMASTE AT THE START OF HER ROUTINE BECAUSE SHE COULDN’T STOP EXPRESSING HOW AFRAID SHE WAS TO BE UP ON STAGE, OVER AND OVER AGAIN. AND THIS FROM SOMEONE WHO HAD THE MOST PERFECT PRACTICE I WAS AWARE OF FROM AMONGST THE EARLY MORNING YOGIS. I DON’T RECALL IF SHE OR IF SHE DIDN’T – BUT SHE CAME OUT OF IT CALMER THAN BEFORE.

WHY DID I SAY IT? MOST OF ME WAS WONDERING WHAT I WAS DOING COMPETING WITH ALL THESE SPECIMENS OF PERFECT BODY AND POSTURE! I HAD BARELY BEGUN MY PRACTICE. MOSTLY I WAS AFRAID OF FALLING OUT OF THE ONE-LEGGED BALANCING POSTURES. I HAD JUST BEGUN TO BE ABLE TO STAND ON ONE LEG IN MY PRACTICE (LESS THAN A MONTH, AND THAT TOO, NOT EVERY TIME).

SAYING NAMASTE DIDN’T HELP AT ALL.

I FELL OUT OF BOTH POSTURE #5: STANDING HEAD TO KNEE (DANDAYAMANA – JANUSHIRASANA), AND POSTURE #6: STANDING BOW POSE (DANDAYAMANA – DHANURASANA). WITH POSTURE #5 I FELL OFF COMPLETELY AND DIDN’T QUITE GET TO KICKING OUT THE LEG; WITH POSTURE #6 I WOBBLED MY WAY TO MY FULL EXPRESSION IN FITS AND STARTS. I HAVE A SENSE THAT I MIGHT HAVE FALLEN OUT OF IT, BUT THEN THERE IS A PICTURE OF ME IN THIS POSE SO I MUST HAVE HELD IT LONG ENOUGH FOR THE PHOTOGRAPHER TO TAKE A PICTURE. MAYBE I JUST EXITED THE POSTURE WITH LESS GRACE THAN I WAS PLANNING TO.

OCTOBER 2005 –
WENT TO SAN ANTONIO TO SEE BIKRAM AND RAJASHREE CHOUDHURY CONDUCTING 2-3 DAYS WORKSHOPS. ONCE AGAIN I DROVE WITH MY HUSBAND AS WE WERE STAYING AT THE RESORT FOR TWO OR THREE DAYS. IN ADDITION TO ATTENDING THE TEACHING SESSIONS THAT WERE OPEN TO STUDENTS OF ANY YOGA FLAVOR, I SPENT VERY LITTLE TIME WITH YOGA FRIENDS. MY HUSBAND RAN AROUND TOWN WITH OUR CAR. HE HAD NO INTEREST IN YOGA. AT OTHER TIMES WE WANDERED AROUND THE GROUNDS OF THE RESORT, ESPECIALLY ITS SHOPS TO SEE WHAT WAS ON OFFER. I DIDN’T FIND ANYTHING ATTRACTIVE TO MY POCKET BOOK. THERE WERE SEVERAL PERSONAL RELAXATION SERVICES ON OFFER BUT MY WALLET DIDN’T STRETCH THAT FAR.

I ASKED BIKRAM FOR COMMENTS AND ADVICE ON MY EXECUTION OF POSTURE #2: HANDS TO FEET, AKA, PADA-HASTHASANA. EVERYONE WAS DOING SO, AND ALL OF US FROM BIKRAM YOGA DALLAS THAT HAD TRAVELED TO SEE THE CHOUDHURYS HAD MADE SURE TO SECURE PLACES FRONT AND CENTER OF THE STAGE. ON STAGE HE ASKED ME TO DO THE POSTURE THE BEST I COULD. I DID SO. I REMEMBER HIM COMMENTING THAT HE DIDN’T SEE WHY I THOUGHT I NEEDED ADVICE – MY TORSO WAS TOUCHING MY THIGHS AND MY HANDS WERE CUPPING MY HEELS LIKE HE SAYS IN HIS DIALOGUE. MAYBE SOMEONE ASKED ABOUT THE FOREHEAD REACHING THE TOP OF THE FOOT EVENTUALLY. IN RESPONSE BIKRAM CAME CLOSER FROM THE FRONT TO GRAB MY HIPS, KEEPING MY BACK TOUCHING HIS LEGS AS HE USED HIS GRIP ON MY HIPS TO MOVE MY WEIGHT TOWARDS HIM AND MORE TO THE BALLS OF MY FEET, THUS ENGAGING THE FRONT OF THE LEG BETTER AND LIKELY LOCKING IT ALSO. (I DON’T RECALL FEELING MY KNEES LOCKED). I DON’T SEE HOW HE COULD HAVE MOVED MY WEIGHT TO MY TOES EFFECTIVELY IF HE HAD GRABBED ME FROM BEHIND. IF HE HAD DONE THIS THEN HE WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO JUDGE HOW FAR TO MOVE BEFORE ACHIEVING ALIGNMENT OF THE LEGS. THE REAR APPROACH WOULD ALSO NOT ENABLE HIM TO STRAIGHTEN OUT MY BACK.

AFTER THE CLASS WITH BIKRAM CHOUDHURY THE NEXT DAY WE HAD RAJASHREE, HIS WIFE, TEACH THE CLASS. SMOOTH AS SILK AND TOUGH AS STEEL IS HOW I WOULD DESCRIBE HER. WITHOUT USING ANY WORDS, PHRASES OR THOUGHTS THAT WERE RADICAL OR REVOLUTIONARY IN ANY WAY. I FELT NO STRESS IN HER CLASS. THE STRESS IN BIKRAM’S CLASS CAME FROM THE ANTICIPATION OF BEING CAUGHT CHEATING AT A POSE, OR FALLING OUT, OR SOME SUCH BONE-HEADED ACTION. THERE WAS NO NEED FOR STRESS AS IT TURNED OUT. IN RAJASHREE’S CLASS, I FELT CALM AND YET I FOUND THAT A NEW VOICE HIGHLIGHTED NEW PIECES OF INFORMATION I HADN’T THOUGHT ABOUT. SO MY CLASS WAS STILL DIFFICULT – IN A GOOD WAY. THAT’S WHY I SAY, SMOOTH AS SILK AND TOUGH AS STEEL. SHE INCLUDED DESCRIPTIONS OF CERTAIN ALIMENTARY DETAILS THAT ARE AFFECTED BY DIFFERENT POSTURES, WHICH WAS ALSO INTRIGUING.

SO MUCH FOR RAJASHREE’S DOCILE CHARACTER! IT WOULD BE HARD TO MAINTAIN DOCILITY TOWARDS STUDENTS WHILE TEACHING THEM YOGA, WITHOUT INCITING OVERT AND COVERT DISOBEDIENCE. STUDENTS EVERYWHERE IN EVERY TYPE OF SCHOOL CAN BE HOOLIGANS IF CLASSROOM COMMAND IS NOT MAINTAINED.

TO THE WIDOWS AS PYTHONESSES


TO THE WIDOWS AS PYTHONESSES,

JUST BECAUSE YOU ALLEGE MY FATHER WAS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HUSBANDS’ MISFORTUNES DOES NOT MAKE IT SO.

MY FATHER WAS TRUSTED BY NUMEROUS SMALL BUSINESS OWNERS IN ERSTWHILE BOMBAY AND PRESENT-DAY MUMBAI. OTHERWISE THEY WOULD NOT HAVE ALLOWED HIM TO SLEEP IN THEIR OFFICES AFTER HOURS.

EVEN AFTER THE EXAMPLE OF YOUR HUSBAND, UMANATH, WHO SOLD GOODS TO UNACCOUNTED CUSTOMERS, BUSINESS OWNERS IN THE AREA CONTINUED TO TRUST AND PAY MY FATHER AND HIS CLOSE FRIEND TO KEEP THEIR BOOKS FOR THEM.

– REGARDS!

Roosh, Ukraine TV with good and bad guys, & girls

As in the US so in Ukraine, Russians are used to portray the bad guys. Not in movies. But on popular TV chat shows. You see this towards the end with a couple of guys in the audience at 24.33 minutes in.

THEY ARE COMPLETELY WESTERNIZED.

MEANING THAT TO BE WESTERNIZED IS TO PASS THE BLAME ON THE FOREIGNER, THE LEGAL ALIEN, THE LEGAL IMMIGRANT, THE NATURALIZED CITIZEN THAT STICKS OUT.

IS THAT NOT A WONDERFUL MESSAGE TO SEND TO THE REST OF THE WORLD ABOUT THE BENEFITS OF WESTERNIZATION?

NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, AS LONG AS YOU HAVE SOME LEGAL IMMIGRANTS WITHIN THE BORDERS, THEY ARE FODDER FOR ALL SORTS OF SACRIFICES?

I USE THE WORD ‘LEGAL IMMIGRANT’ DELIBERATELY. IN THE US IT IS EASIER TO BE AN ILLEGAL IMMIGRANT. IT GIVES THE GIRLS AND THE RELIGIOUS INSTITUTIONS AND EVANGELICAL GROUPS SOMEONE TO WHOM THEY CAN POINT TO AS THE BENEFICIARY OF TAXPAYER PROVIDED LARGESSE AS THE REASON FOR THEIR OWN CONTINUED EXISTENCE.